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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at FSU chapter.

Falling in love with someone is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. Getting butterflies and finally meeting somebody who makes you feel warm inside is incredible. When you meet someone with who you have a spark, you start seeing and feeling things in a new way. However, sometimes, things could be going so incredibly well that it’s hard to pick up changed feelings or emotions, leading to life throwing a curveball at you.

This is exactly what happened to me. I had met the absolute definition of my dream guy and I felt like I was on top of the world. The immediate connection I had felt with him was a foreign feeling to me but I loved it. After things were going well, one day out of the blue, he just stopped talking to me. I couldn’t help but think, what is it that went wrong? Was it something wrong with me? And I just watched my world crumble in front of me and my confidence was shot.

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Although I really liked this kid, and I mean I REALLY did, in a weird way, I’m glad that this happened. Deep down, I do still wish he had at least communicated with me, but I know it has nothing to do with me. The entire situation made me value myself and my worth SO much more than I had before. It was so difficult at first for me to see it this way. When I say this kid was so much different than any guy I had ever met and we instantly connected I mean it. I could just picture so much with him and felt so comfortable that it was tough for me to let go or accept the way that he hurt me. He is a great guy and maybe he didn’t know he hurt me but that doesn’t mean I should suffer over him. As I said, it made me value myself as a person so much more and now I know I will and won’t take from guys anymore. The fact that he didn’t respect me enough to communicate with me is enough of a reason not to dwell on it. That’s another part of ghosting that does suck. The reality is, usually if they just leave like that, someone else started to give them attention. Or they just are immature and can’t communicate it. Either way, don’t put up with it. Just from that, they don’t deserve you.

Now, I know what I deserve and no matter how much somebody is romanticized in my head or how obsessed with them I am. I know that I deserve the absolute best and the reality is that he couldn’t give that to me. Additionally, I’ve learned that being single is okay. The right guy will come at the perfect time and he’ll be everything that I’ve ever dreamed of. But for now, I’ve not only learned how to love myself more, but I know it’s not worth it to settle for just anybody.

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Alexia is double-majoring at Florida State University in Sociology and Media/Communications Studies. She holds a strong love for reading, writing, music and enjoys going to the beach back at home in Fort Lauderdale. When she’s not busy catching up with work or school, you can usually catch her hanging out with her puppy, Ginger or at Happy Hour on Friday with her besties.
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