We all have been there. We’ve had those days when everything seems to be too much and we have no choice but to get frustrated, angry or even upset. Dealing with negative emotions such as anger, frustration, disappointment and even jealousy can be hard to manage, especially since we hardly ever confront those feelings but choose to bury them instead. We never really give each other advice or hold space for one another to talk about these things. Instead, we shut them down. There’s often this push to be happy and think positively, but sometimes that just isn’t enough. The world is too complex to be happy and optimistic all the time. As a sensitive person, I feel all my emotions all the time. That is not easy, especially since people are quick to say that you’re overreacting. There comes a point where we have to tell each other it’s okay to feel the way we’re feeling. We have to sit in it to truly “get over it.”
Our lives are stressful and we all have bad days. Therefore, negative emotions are okay. In fact, I would be more concerned about someone who is happy all the time. Emotions are just that: emotions. They fluctuate. Feelings change all the time, so why should they be classified as negative as if those feelings are not natural or valid? Anger and pain aren’t going to go away because you choose to ignore them. Feelings aren’t the issue, the issue is how we react and what we choose to do with those feelings. Ignoring your emotions makes your reactions during those times even worse. You’re frustrated and instead of acknowledging that and giving yourself a break, you ignore it until you accidentally end up taking it out on other people.
However, let’s be honest, no one wants to experience anger, bitterness or rejection. I definitely don’t want to but I have to admit that those emotions protect us. The scenarios that embarrass or hurt us change how we react and the decisions we make thereafter. It’s important that we know negative emotions are not inherently bad things. Negative emotions aid us in our survival and that’s why suppressing them can only lead to harm rather than good. Living in denial and avoiding the reality of a situation can be more harmful than whatever painful feelings are wrapped up in it. It may feel more comfortable to pull away from the hard things, but what happens in reality is that the more you distance yourself, the deeper you plunge — usually without even knowing it. People who live in a state of denial tend to experience feelings of isolation, anxiety and sadness.
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