You have a guy. He’s super cute, so charming, and totally your type. Things are great and you’re starting to think that Cupid may finally be on your side. Then, in a blink of an eye, it happens. He stops answering your texts, the late night phone calls disappear, and before you know it you’re all alone wondering what could have possibly gone wrong. Recently, there seems to be a good amount of breaking up going on. Now that college is a couple months underway, maybe the whole “long distance relationship” thing is not working out too well. Maybe the guy who seemed totally into you was really just into hooking up with you. Or maybe the high expectations and potential “what could have been’s” have quickly let you down like a giant slap in the face. Whatever your situation may be, getting over that one guy who broke your heart (or maybe just messed with it a little) is tough. Realizing that you’re not on his mind 24/7 or that you are not worth the time needed for a commitment is…well…not an easy thing to swallow. So what do we do now? Is there any way to get over it? Even better question…how do we deal when he (inevitably) starts to hook up with other girls? Sure, you and your friends can trash talk the homewrecking, good for nothing chick all you want, stalking out Facebook and convincing yourself that you are waaaay cuter (which doesn’t get rid of the hurt.) Or you can stage a plot to seduce and hook up with all of his best guy friends (which never really ends up working out.) You can even show up to all the same parties he is at with the hope of making him realize he just made the biggest mistake of his life (which, if he’s over you, will almost never happen.) Once all of your attempts at recovery and/or revenge fail, it may seem as though moving on will be impossible. So what now?
1.) Vent: Don’t be ashamed to admit it… girls love to talk, ESPECIALLY about boys. (We’ve all seen the movies!) Sometimes having that pow-wow or FaceTime sessions with your best girlfriends are exactly what you need to realize that he is not worth any more of your time. They might also help you understand what went wrong and if there is any chance of redeeming the relationship. If they don’t think he is worth your time anymore, chances are they are right. Listen to your friends because they will always have your best interest at heart.
2.) Pop in Taylor Swift: Songs can be so unbelievably relevant to our life it’s scary. Busting out the lyrics to that great Taylor song might help with the recovery process. It’ll also alert us that, yes, even Taylor Swift gets dumped.
3.) Stop Stalking: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram…social media can be a very bad thing following the end of a relationship. Stalking becomes an almost necessary evil. After all, we just HAVE to know what he is up to, which girls he’s been hanging out with, and if he has gotten any cuter since the last time we saw (or stalked) him. But think about it…how is that going to help you get over him? Defriend, delete, or just ignore. Not worth the stalking.
4.) Meet other guys: As cliché as it sounds, there ARE plenty of other fish in the sea, especially at college! Open yourself up to other guys and have fun. Maybe you won’t find Prince Charming right away, but the new people you meet in the meantime may end up changing your life. You never know! The single life can be an amazing time if we let it.
5.) Stay positive: It is so easy to get down on yourself following a breakup. Were you not pretty/funny/good enough for him? What went wrong? Was it your fault? Insecurities, questions, and doubts are bound to creep up eventually…but stay positive! Remember that everything happens for a reason and if it is meant to be it will happen. As much as you might hate to admit it, he probably wasn’t the right guy for you anyway. Once you accept this, finding the guy who is will be so much more worth it.
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