Never believe anyone that tells you that they are totally comfortable with their ex. It is just not true. Deep down, somewhere in their brain, they know that their ex knows things no one else does. Even if those things are stupid inside jokes or little personality quirks, it all matters. There’s also the issue of lingering feelings. Until one moves on to another relationship, it’s hard to get over an ex. Even though being one hundred percent comfortable with your ex is unlikely, you can be friendly and cordial. There are boys I used to date that I hang out with and still talk to, and they’re some of my good friends now. Â
This is not the awkward part, though. The awkward part is running into an ex after a bad break up. If you build up the courage to talk to him, or if you’re talking in a big group, everything he says is associated with memories of your past relationship and you’re prone to over analyzing the situation. If he says “pizza”, all of a sudden that one night you went out for pizza and laughed all the way home pops into your mind.
Some situations are worse than others. It may be your ex from freshman year of high school or it may be your ex from last week. Just know that everyone feels it! Whether it is you or your ex or your best friend, everyone feels the awkwardness. It may be a little moment of awkwardness or a year of awkwardness, but you will survive! So next time you are stuck with your ex for any amount of time, know that you are not alone.