I’ve accepted the fact that I’m a true empath. An empath’s life is unconsciously influenced by others’ desires, thoughts,and energies they let into their life. This causes people to naturally gravitate towards us and I love it. Before I completely grasped this concept I mistakenly labeled myself as a “people’s person”. Here are three things I’ve learned from being a people’s person:
1) People’s energy can literally drain you. Some people don’t realize it, but their problems are DRAINING. Yes, always be there for your friends but sometimes it’s best that they figure out how to solve for X on their own. It’s okay to go M.I.A and reboot because real friends will understand that you need to be a friend to yourself first.
2) Feel what you’re feeling! It’s absolutely necessary to acknowledge your feelings when you’re feeling them. When you choose to surround yourself with people it is not your job to suppress your feelings to validate someone else’s. Be you! Real will gravitate towards real.
3) After lying to myself for years I’ve realized that I am not a people’s person. My opinions are too strong to ignore, and I forcefully walk away from people after little things bother me. I avoid the busy parts of campus and pretend to be on a call to avoid talking to people in public. Yes, I know we follow each other on twitter but why do we have to pretend to know one another? I KNOW I’m not the only one. It’s totally okay though, I’m true to myself and people tend to respect it. Don’t forget to be a friend to yourself first!!
Learning these three things helped me become more mindful of how much time I was spending trying to please other people, and it changed my life. Empaths and fellow lost humans, this one’s for you!