Itâs the day filled with love, chocolate, and the colors red and pink. Valentineâs Day, you either love or hate it. A common dislike that circulates this holiday is the strong emphasis on being in a relationship. For some, the brutal realization of their single lifestyle is uncalled for, while others fantasize about their ideal partner.Â
Regardless of what side you stand on, Valentineâs Day should be shifted to where the focus of love and care is centered around yourself. Forget everybody else. Here are the doâs and donâts of being single on Valentineâs Day.Â
Do: Buy Yourself Something Nice
You deserve it. Use this day to treat yourself to that one thing youâve been holding off on or telling yourself you donât need. There isn’t a better satisfaction than knowing that the favorite items you own, you bought yourself. Theyâre a subliminal reminder of how hard youâve worked. Everyone needs to be rewarded at some point.
Donât: Compare Yourself to Others on Social Media
On a day like this, social media can be your downfall if youâre not mentally prepared. Itâs okay to check in and see how everyone else is spending the holiday, but donât let five minutes scrolling down your timeline turn into two hours of obsessing on how one couple had your dream date idea. Close the app, itâs not worth it.
Do: Check Up on Your Friends You might have some friends who are in the same position as you. Since they donât have a significant other, send them a quick text or call them to remind them how much you love or appreciate them. You probably wouldnât realize how much that small gesture would impact someone whoâs feeling lonely and needs to be reminded of their value.
Donât: Contact Old Partners
This one canât be stressed enough. The pressure from the holiday can be very overwhelming, but donât let that stress cause you to make a bad decision with someone who didnât work out in the past. Value this time you have alone, and donât seek validation from people that youâve outgrown.Â
Do: Know Your worth
This time spent alone will only make you more prepared for when you do have the opportunity to spend it with a partner. Until that time comes, understand that you are worthy of self-love and respect. The best way to exercise understanding your worth is by catering to yourself. Your expectations will be defined, and the love that you seek will find you at the perfect time.
Donât let the atmosphere of Valentineâs Day leave you feeling bittersweet. Reprogram your perspective on the day and emphasize the importance of loving yourself when you don’t have anyone to do it for you directly.
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