It’s that time of the year, where we are starting to declare our New Year’s resolution, planning future endeavors, making goals, and making lists of all the people we are leaving behind in 2016. Well on my list this year it’s “me”, yes I’m leaving “me” behind. Y’all are probably thinking, “What the hell?” or, “How is that even possible?” Well, 2016 has been filled with many blessings, my spiritual life has improved, I am employed, I have my own apartment, I know who my friends are, my family is good and I’m healthy; but, this year hasn’t always been good, this year “me” let me down.
In 2016, I didn’t enter the new year with any hopes, goals, or things I would change. I just simply wanted to be better, nothing specific, nothing major just better. “Me” didn’t follow through with the plan to be better. Instead of letting toxic relationships and friendships go from the beginning, “me” found the good in the devil and allowed herself to become so caught up in the idea of loving someone else that she forgot how to love herself. She didn’t know what made her happy anymore, she stopped writing, she distanced herself, she took a social media break, she was the chick that kept posting subliminal posts hoping the people who hurt her would see and have a change of heart. She started doubting her greatness, she lost hope, she no longer knew her purpose and she was content with feeling stuck.
That’s not who I am. I don’t settle, I don’t leave things unfinished, I don’t give up – “me” gave up. “Me” started using other people’s opinions of herself to dictate what she would do and not do. “Me” let a man in her space who didn’t belong, who showed up as the devil and didn’t bother to change clothes and “me” still engaged in casual conversation thinking it couldn’t hurt. “Me” started to allow people to place her on the back burner and be the dominant one in the friendships. “Me” found herself pouring her heart out to females who she called “sisters” only to not get a reply. “Me” was broken. “Me” allowed herself to become someone she hated. “Me” was bitter, angry, and couldn’t understand why she was going through a midlife crisis at age 20.
To the “me’s” in the world, don’t be hard on yourself; don’t lose you in trying to help someone else. You’re allowed to be selfish, you’re allowed to think for your future self, you’re allowed to fall down as long as you get back up and go harder. Don’t be stagnate, don’t allow what others couldn’t do for you stop you getting things done, don’t allow anyone to calculate or determine your worth – YOU DECIDE. The beauty about letting this “me” go is that you can rebuild, revamp, clean house and get right. I don’t know about y’all “me’s” but this me is going into 2017 anticipating many congratulations, and abundance of blessings and happiness, stability, defined purpose, and this time I won’t let “me” get in the way of things. Maybe you aren’t quite sure, how to accomplish this so here’s some tips to make sure you’re a walking come up in 2017.
– Let go of toxic people
– Invest time in your future you
– Refocus on your initial goal
– Spend quality time with yourself
– Put you first
– Any negative thought, turn it positive
– Don’t let your devil defeat you
– Blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family, realize the difference and plan for it
– Things will disappoint you and so will people, never put faith in man.
– God must be the foundation of all things, in order to receive your blessing
– Don’t make choices based on past experiences, create new ones
– LOVE YOU !