An important part of being in a healthy relationship is learning your partner’s love language. A love language is understanding how you give and receive love, The five different ones as described by Dr. Gary Chapman are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. With Valentine’s Day coming up, knowing your partner’s love language and the type of treatment or gift that will appeal to them the most will improve your holiday. If you don’t know yours or your partner’s language, have both take the 5 love languages quiz. These are some Valentine’s Day ideas to make your partner happy based on their love language.
Words of Affirmation
If your love language is words of affirmation, you value verbal reassurance. Sayings like “I appreciate you” or “I love you” go a long way. If your partner’s love language is this, they might appreciate a written heart-felt card. Or if they’re into books, look for a poem book that helps convey your feelings.
Acts of Service
Partners whose love language is acts of service appreciate when you do things in thought of them. For Valentine’s Day, do something special for your partner that you think they would appreciate whether its running an errand for them, cooking a meal, or making yourself available for whatever they need.
Receiving Gifts
According to Dr. Chapman, “The receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift.” As you should with any present, take time to think about some of the things your partner likes. Consider if they’ve been dropping any hints about their favorite things. Or if you don’t know what they want, just give a gift from the heart- something that symbolizes your relationship or your feelings for your partner. If the effort is there they’ll be sure to appreciate it
Quality Time
Those whose love language is quality time are all about being receiving attention from their partner. This love language desires spending time with their partner; as long as they’re getting to be one-on-one or around the one they care about, they’re usually happy. Plan a special day with your partner where you can do an activity together. A romantic dinner will give them the needed time to talk and enjoy being in your presence.
Physical Touch
“A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love.” If your partner’s love language is physical touch you can cuddle up and watch a movie, or give your partner a massage. Throughout the day, kisses or just a hand on their arm or leg can make them happy as you express your feelings.