3 Simple Rules for Texting Your Crusader Crush

I don’t know a single girl who doesn’t get jittery about texting a guy she’s crushing on, but the process doesn’t have to be so scary! A lot of the rules you’ve heard from gossip mags don’t necessarily apply. So, follow these simple tips and you’ll be having fab conversations in no time.

1. Don’t Be Afraid to Text Him FirstI know, I know, this contradicts the advice that literally every other girl has given you! But, sometimes a gal has to be a little proactive to work things out with a guy she likes. For example, towards the start of my freshman year I met a super cute guy at a party. He asked for my number and promised he would text me the next day, so we could hang out; I was super excited! However, when most of the night passed without a text, I decided to channel my favorite singer and be a little fearless. I texted him first, and he ended up telling me he was just working up the nerve to text me. We’ll be celebrating our year-long anniversary in a week, so I think it’s fair to say it worked out!A lot of the rules you’ve heard from gossip mags don’t necessarily apply. Follow these simple tips and you’ll be having fab conversations in no time.
2. Take a Little Time Between TextsEven though I totally support a girl being straightforward and texting her crush, it’s never a good thing to come on too strong! That means pacing yourself and waiting a few minutes between texts. Also, if you find that you’re always the one starting the convos, let him start the next one. You might be surprised how much better he gets about texting you once you stop reaching out to him so much. And, if you find that he totally stops texting you once you’re not the one pulling the weight- consider chatting up another guy. Somebody who isn’t putting in an effort is definitely not worth your time. 
3. Balance It Out!So many girls agonize over exactly what to say to the cutie they met at that party. We show the text to all our girl friends, scrutinize every word, then pass it to our guy friends to see what they think! If this sounds anything like you, here are a few helpful suggestions. First, don’t agonize over every tiny word you send—that can make your text sound robotic and unnatural. Remember, you want this guy to like you for you, so don’t send him something that’s been edited a gazillion times by your sister or roomie. Also, even though this can be tough, try not to overdo it on the emojis, OMGs, or LOLs. These are super fun to send to your female pals, but sometimes they can seem like overkill to a guy! Last but definitely not least, try to balance your texting convos with face-to-face hangouts. After all, nothing can beat your guy’s amazing smile or hearing his voice in person! A lot of girls stress more about what to text a guy than anything else but try to relax and be confident! If a guy is texting you in the first place, he’s more than likely interested and can’t wait to hear from you. Just try not to text him a novel or obsess too much about what to say. Be positive, be confident, and be yourself, and you could be celebrating your anniversary before you know it!

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