I have noticed more recently than before the effect of people and their phones in my relationships with others. It is hard to hold a conversation with anyone anymore without them answering a text, scrolling through Instagram, or looking something up. It is extremely frustrating to me. There have been countless times where I have fully been in a conversation with someone and they just go on their phone and start texting people back when it is not urgent at all, or scrolling through Tik-Tok. It is really upsetting as I notice the effects this has on relationships. It makes me feel that the other person is uninterested in talking with me and that whoever they are texting is more interesting than me. I have friends who I haven’t seen in a while and they will sit and scroll through Instagram while we are together.
I have grown to really dislike social media in the past year. I feel like I’m wasting my time when I’m on it, and lacking social skills. I think we all seriously need a detox from our phones, even if we don’t realize it. It is not a normal thing and can have serious negative impacts on our health, minds, and relationships. This summer it should be everyone’s goal to be on their phone less. I personally love the feeling of seeing that I haven’t checked my phone in hours when I am with people I love. Stop worrying about liking someones post or making sure to post to show you are having fun. Live in the moment and stop inserting your phone in every aspect of your life.