“I am a goal-oriented person”
It shows that the person is focused, knows what they want for themselves, and works enough to achieve it. I honestly wish I could say this about myself.
However, I’m really not a goal-oriented person. In fact, I cannot even make goals for myself.
So many times, I have been asked for my new year’s resolutions, goals for the school year, or general goals in life. Just this month, I was asked about my goal for this year since I just turned 21.
Not once have I been able to answer these questions.
why can’t we set goals?
I was always so ashamed that I didn’t have goals on many occasions.
When I heard people talking about their new year’s resolutions, or their dream job and their plans to achieve them, I would feel crumbled, like I was running behind them.
But now, I don’t feel that way about myself.
I can’t set goals for myself because I don’t have a big consistent picture of what kind of person I want to be. I don’t have a big life plan, or a dream job.
And I believe that this necessarily isn’t the worse thing ever.
basically, it’s okay to not know what you’re doing
I think not being able to have a big picture of what you want to be, or who you are, also means that you welcome changes and surprises, and that you use these to make yourself a better version of who you are.
Life is full of unexpected occasions, and those are what has shaped our lives so far. I think that is what makes life so beautiful and exciting.
I believe that my strongest traits and best memories all come from unexpected changes or difficulties.
Moving to different counties literally every 3 years brought me preseverance, a mind that respects, and fluency in two languages. My diagnosis to a chronic disease brought me strength, and a greater sense of appreciation to life. Not getting accepted to any univerisity except for ICU brought me encounters with the most amazing, talented, and interesting people I have ever met.
After a series of surprises in life, both pleasant and unpleasant like these, I stopped trying to expect what is in store for me next.
be proud that you are living in the moment
Of course, it’s great to have a goal and make effort in spite of surprises or difficulties. Thus I definitely still respect those goal-oriented people. And maybe in some place of my heart I still really admire them.
However, I think it suits me better that I live fluidly.
I will never be able to expect what is to come in life, and I’d rather make the best out of wherever I am and whatever I am given.
If any of you reading are anything like me, if you have ever been concerned with not having goals or a ‘dream’, I want to tell you that it’s not anything to be ashamed of.
You are living in the moment.
And when the chances come by, you will grab them.