Being a strong independent woman is a big theme in the 21st century. An incident recently happened that had me asking, what does being one ACTUALLY mean? Spoiler alert: I donât think there is a correct answer. Surely being an independent woman is individual to everyone. I think the essence of it is feeling empowered; the feeling you get when you are most confident and sure of yourself, but how can we achieve this?
One woman may think sheâs a strong independent woman because she owns a business, another may think sheâs one because sheâs a mother, and another because she doesnât rely on men. The reality is, they are all strong independent women because they feel so within themselves, I think that is the trick. It’s all about your mentality. It doesnât depend on your femininity, money, or status. It’s what drives you to be the best version of yourself. Itâs when you are celebrating womanhood by showing an interest in women, hyping other women up (because we are a team, ladies!) and doing things for ourselves. I think itâs easy to feel like youâre being selfish when you put yourself first but it’s needed. You are your home; you need to do things to protect and boost yourself. Forget âthe male gazeâ and âthe female gazeâ what about âMY gazeâ? What can you do to make yourself feel powerful and stunning? Try pushing yourself out of your comfort zone because this is how we develop and progress. Push yourself to be the best version you can be.
So, can you be a strong independent woman while still relying on someone? The answer is absolutely, yes! I donât think being independent should mean you don’t need anybody, because that goes against our human instinct. Try not to allow all your emotions to be totally dependent on one person as this is when relationships can get toxic. Surround yourself with people who boost your strength, happiness, and confidence. The best of friends are the people who, even when you leave their side, the world feels like your oyster and you are exactly where you need to be.
You donât need to have everything together to be a beautiful, strong, independent woman. We all have rough patches. It’s about getting through and learning life lessons at every twist in your life. The truth is, you are a strong independent woman right now, even if you donât feel it. I know you are. So, chin up and believe in yourself.