Yes, you’ve read the title correct. My longest and current relationship is completely long distance. I’ve gotten every question in the book from “how do you do it?” “Don’t you miss him?” and my favorite, “why?” For me, those aren’t hard questions to answer, but I usually go into detail as to how my relationship first blossomed.
I met Justin my sophomore year of high school. He was blunt, serious, and sarcastic, but funny at the same time. I was already friends with his twin brother since we had gym class the previous year. Justin and I would talk in school, but other than that, we were acquaintances. He did his thing as a senior and I did mine as a sophomore. The one school activity that brought us together was our school’s theater program. Through the school play, Justin and I formed our friendship. After his graduation, Justin left for the United States Marine Corps. We kept in touch, and always asked how each other were doing. I had always said that there was one type of relationship I never wanted to be involved in: a military relationship. It was during my junior year that I had started to have an interest in him. We were texting every day, face timing, and slowly, but surely, I had a crush on him.
We had decided to try a relationship when we both knew we didn’t want to see other people. Within these past three years, I can say it has been the most difficult, most emotional, but best relationship for me. It has taught me trust, communication, and appreciation. During his time in the service, Justin and I have seen each other 6 times. While I started my first semester at college, we were also enduring his first deployment. There were a few nights he could call for five minutes and times I would wonder when I would hear from him next. When you aren’t able to see a person daily or even once a month, you begin to treasure all the moments you have with that person. Our relationship is based heavily on trust. We also learned the importance of communicating our likes and dislikes with each other in order to keep our relationship successful. Through all of this, we were able to build a solid structure for a real, adult like relationship.
As to how I do it? Sometimes, I don’t even know. When you love someone, you’ll do anything to be with that person. Justin and I have had some of the best memories, laughs, and conversations. I can say I trust him 100% and know that we honest to God love each other. This has not been the easiest relationship by any means, and there are nights we fight hard, but we always love harder. I wouldn’t trade a day to have my life without him. He is my best friend, my rock, and my support system. He never sugarcoats his words and always has the right advice. I also know how much love he has for me. There isn’t a thing he wouldn’t do for me and vice versa. At the end of the day, I always look forward to face timing him every night. Each night is another day closer to seeing each other.