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Let’s make this clear: I love my curly hair. Even as much as it annoys me on the days she doesn’t want to cooperate. The days where I apply my curly hair products like I do every day but the curls don’t want to be defined. The days when it is so frizzy it looks like I got electrocuted. Even on wash day…the people that get it, get it. Curly hair is a huge blessing but it can also be a huge bummer to deal with every day. Even so, I am always grateful to have such cool hair. So coming from a girl with curly hair, I am here to give my own advice to those whose special someone has curly hair as well. So here are my do’s and don’ts when dating your special someone with curly hair. (with help from my special someone :) )
- More products = Less $$$
As much as it pains me to tell you, don’t be surprised if you are hitting Target and Walmart every other couple of weeks tagging along with them to get hair products. Conditioners, curl creams, leave-in conditioners, gels, hair oils, and cleansing shampoos. All of those equal a lot of money. Each relationship has its own boundaries on spending money, but if you ever want to do something nice for them go out and get them their favorite curly hair products. I promise you, that’s the best thing you can do for them. I recommend making them a cute little gift basket with their favorite creams and conditioners and adding in some brushes and gels. You’re welcome in advance.
- Different brushes have different functions
If you have straight hair you may have one comb and one brush. I currently have one wet brush, one thick bristle brush, one wide-tooth comb, and one styling brush. The wet brush is for washing hair and for the shower, and the thick bristle brush is for when you want to brush your hair back and make it slick. Your wide-tooth comb is for those days you want your hair to be a bit poofier, and the styling brush is for those days you want to clean up that slicked-back ponytail and do your edges. It is a whole arsenal depending on how you want to do your hair. So don’t be that one jerk that uses the bristle brush on their partner’s hair when they want to let their curls loose. I promise it won’t end well for you.
- There will always be a bonnet near them. Always.
Okay. Come in close. I need you to really listen to me. Okay? That bonnet that they wear tonight deserves your utmost respect. That bonnet keeps their curls defined overnight and it costs them less time the next morning to get ready. That bonnet is a true veteran that has seen it all. My own bonnet has been through hell and back with me. So whenever you see your honey with their bonnet on, don’t laugh or point at them. Hype them up! Make it known that you respect them and their bonnet.
- Don’t be THAT person.
This one is for couples that are first starting out. If you are just starting to see someone, don’t just assume that it’s okay for you to touch their hair. Would you like it if someone randomly touched your hair? I don’t think so. It all has to start with a conversation. Compliment their hair. Tell them it looks nice. If you really can’t contain yourself and you really want to touch it, make sure to ask first. You wouldn’t want to overstep a boundary. This honestly goes out to everyone who are friends with or a family member of someone with curly hair. Actually, this is a public service announcement to anyone who thinks it’s okay to touch someone’s hair without permission. DO NOT TOUCH ANYONE’S HAIR WITHOUT PERMISSION. Please and thank you.
- Don’t purposely mess up their hair.
This is different from number four. This goes out to the people that think it’s “funny” to ruffle someone’s hair or to “yaga” it (pulling their hair and saying “yaga”) I advise you. If you truly care about your relationship and respect that person. Don’t even think about it. You have been warned.