We all know the girls. The ones who aren’t quite the girlfriends. Instead, they are the girl friends. These are the best friends who also happen to be girls. Most guys have a #1 go-to-girl regardless if they have a girlfriend or not. The question is, how do we as the girlfriend deal with it?
This tends to be a very touchy subject for most girls. We are all jealous, possessive, and controlling by nature (don’t deny it… acceptance is the first step). Having to compete with a girl best friend is not going to be fun. This becomes hard if the best friend came first, and you know that your man and his “bestie” definitely talked about you during the dating stage of the game. The key is to not turn it into a competition. This girl exists in her role for a reason, and if she’s important to your guy, then she should be important to you, too.
As hard as it may be, turn off that obnoxious desire to be jealous. Your boyfriend chose you as his leading lady and with good reason. He decided to pass up the opportunity to pursue his best friend, and you can’t forget that. So what if she’s pretty, funny, and smart? You clearly have what he really wants.
The most important thing to understand about the girl best friend is that she’s more of a “bro” than she is a threat. Guys who have girl friends with that close of a friendship tend to see these girls more as “one of the guys.” Guys won’t openly have crude discussions or “guy talk” with a lady present unless she’s reached “bro” status. That being said, your man won’t be attracted to a bro. Stop worrying.
Despite what you may think, a girl best friend may be a good thing. Now, when your boyfriend has a question, say for example, about what to buy you for your birthday, he now has a trusted female source. She may also help when things get rough and he needs feminine advice so as not to agitate you even more.
Don’t be intimidated by a best friend. She may have a longer history with your man and she may seem to match him perfectly, but she’s not you. He’s not with her for a reason, yet she serves an important purpose in his life. Try to befriend this special friend without letting her infiltrate your relationship. If nothing else, do it for your man.
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Le Moyne chapter.