There are times in life where we feel the need for a change. Maybe it is because someone that we loved left us or because we lost something that was our “everything.” When thinking about the hardest moments in life I always remember myself turning into a new and better version in the end. A couple of months ago, I realized how significant these changes in our lives can be. I do not want to advise people cliché stuff like “go dye your hair” or “the external reflects the internal.” Although, there is nothing wrong with doing that. Instead, you may feel so much more change if it comes from the inside. I am here to tell you my story.
I never liked peppers. I used to say that if the smell of pepper stinks somewhere, it is over for me. For some odd reason I now love peppers. I eat them every day and the days I do not, I find myself craving them. This is the kind of change I am talking about. I would have never imagined that someday I would desire to eat peppers. That is okay though because the new version of me likes different stuff now.
Who knows how long I have liked peppers? I did not pay attention to when I started enjoying them. The point is, the need for change came naturally. The events and experiences in life shape us to become what we are today; the only difference is how we see it. Here are some things that helped me reinvent myself:
- Stay With People That Bring Your Energy Up
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A lot of times in my life I felt tired and exhausted and I never realized it was because of the people I was always spending my time with. Some people take energy away from you and make you feel bad. It may not be intentional but it can be helpful to take a step back and see if it is time for some change.
- Plan Your Routine According To Yourself
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Some days I felt like I did not have a plan to follow and my routine was all over the place. It is good to plan your day while thinking about your obligations and what makes you feel good. We may not always be able to do everything we love but we can still make a fun thing to compensate for it.
- Take Time With Yourself
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I am not an introvert person. Due to this, it is difficult to find time to be with just myself. It is important to find time to be alone so you can understand why you act, react, and feel the way you do. Overall, finding “me time” can help you feel more in control of your life.
- Do More Of What Makes You Happy
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Even though we are stuck in a basic routine to study, work, and do extracurricular activities we can still find time to do things that make us happy. It does not matter if it is watching your favorite tv show or eating your favorite cupcake as an afternoon snack. Treat yourself better and the improvement will come.
- Take One Step At A Time: Plan!
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It is important to take the only steps that you are ready to do. A simple starting point is by mapping out your goals. Aim to do this monthly or weekly. For example, “I hope to get a good grade on my final paper and to have a good time with my friends on Friday.” Do not rush yourself after a significant change like “I am going to get a great job as the Marketing Executive at Ralph Lauren.” Take small steps in order to reach big goals.
- ALWAYS Put Yourself First
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I am not a people pleaser type of girl. I have never been, but their have been times that I set people in my life before myself. Try your best to put yourself first. You own your life and there is nothing more amazing than that.
My first insight came when my food taste changed. That is when I thought, “why not improve other aspects of my life for the better?” In result, I am feeling happier, more comfortable and more self-aware of my feelings and what is happening in my life. I have more strength to go after my dreams and accomplish my goals. Your need for change probably will not come in the form of peppers as well, so whatever form it comes in try to always be a better version of yourself!