“They have an amazing energy, and they are SO beautiful.”
I’m sure most of us, if not all, have heard a friend say this. Have you ever wondered what that person has different that makes their energy so radiant and gets others’ attention?
Forget all about having the perfect body that fits the stereotype we are so tired of fighting for or arguing on the internet that we need to move to pass it. Being hot is not about physical appearance. It’s much more about confidence and feeling your best. In other words, it’s all about mindset.
It’s funny how you can think of times when you felt your best and realize what they have in common. Why did you look so good in that picture? Yes, your good hair day helped it out, but it’s more than that. It’s deeper than that. It’s a state of mind and how you were feeling at the exact moment when you took that picture.
Even though being hot has nothing to do with physical features, some people may feel their best in different moments, and that is completely fine. You may feel your most alluring when you achieve that big goal you had for over a year or when you get that so-wanted haircut that enhances your features. Either way, it’s more about the effect your actions have in your essence than the action itself.
But what does it mean “to feel hot”?
Well, it may come in different forms for everyone, but the critical thing is that feeling hot shifts our energy and how others perceive us—and most importantly, how we perceive ourselves.
Every since I can remember, people have said that I laugh and smile so much, and I never understood why this was not natural to everyone else. When you feel good about yourself and find ways to enhance your beauty from within, you’re expanding your positive energy and smiling more, which can lead to people picking up on that mood as well.
When we genuinely feel good about ourselves, we make better decisions, set up boundaries for ourselves and others, and value ourselves even more. Building that inner confidence makes us more aware of how much we are worthy and only accept things that make us better than we already are. Otherwise, we are better off without it.
In the same way, people can feel bad energy coming from an environment or a specific person; people can feel good energy. And the best thing about that is how it can be contagious and make people think you are more open to communicate and create connections.
There are many ways to work on our mindset to feel our hottest, and below are some of them that I noticed myself feeling the best.
Being close to others
By being close, I don’t mean just being around others, but being open to developing a solid relationship and meeting new people that can become your closest friends one day. When we’re vulnerable to being close to others, people will catch our energy, and if it matches theirs, well, you already know what will happen.
Wind down at least once a week
Every since I can remember, I always needed at least one day of the week to pamper myself with things that would make me disconnect from the world for a little bit. Depending on my week, I instead take a shower and hydrate my hair, do my nails, put on a face mask, and watch some TV eating my favorite chocolate. Other days, I would rather be more active and exercise or have a cheat day just for fun. Whatever “wind-down” means to you, go for it.
Dress to impress
Yes, you read it right. Dress to impress. Not to impress others, but yourself. Put on that outfit that has been hidden in your closet since you bought it. This is the special occasion you were waiting for. Don’t be afraid to dare on your makeup or outfit. Do it for yourself, and most importantly, do what will make you feel confident and enhance your best traits.
Hair, nails & skin
I don’t know what it is about those three, but every time I’m not feeling on my best days, a simple self-makeover will do. Fixing your hair, doing bold nail art, and taking care of your skin can do miracles to your mood and make you feel your best.
Allow yourself to be young
Most of the time, we get so caught up in academics or career opportunities that we forget to live while we’re young (massive 1D vibes here). Going on last-minute adventures can make you feel so good about yourself, as if you were in a movie scene where anything could happen. It sets a free mindset in your life and can help you be more spontaneous in the future.
Give without expecting to receive
Doing this is something most people don’t know or never tried before. When we do something for others, a favor, or give back to the community, it can impact how we feel about ourselves. It was proven scientifically by Positive Psychologists that acts of service impact your overall happiness. Even if this is sending a thank you message to that friend who’s always by your side or helping out at home with simple tasks, it will definitely make an impact.
Sun-kissed & sweaty vibes
Those are two things that rejuvenate yourself. Getting a tan makes you feel healthier and as if your skin is clean and shiny. Also, the feeling post-sun is the best. Doing a workout session can be pretty challenging, but feeling sweaty after will get you in the mood of feeling renewed and stronger.
Don’t answer
Realizing that you do not need to answer that text right away or even talk to that person who’s bothering you is one of the best choices you can make. If it’s someone who doesn’t do good for you or is more bad than good—you already know. You don’t need to do what you don’t want to, especially when it’s not good for you. We always have a choice, and realizing that is the key to confidence.
Enhancing your beauty from within has nothing to do with physical features representing what is hot in society. Being hot is truly a mindset, and it’s more about how you see yourself than anything else. The moment you realize that feeling hot comes from you, you’ll sail away. Your hotness comes from the inside.
When you start feeling hot, you’ll know that you can do anything you set your mind to, and that is the most beautiful thing you can do for yourself: celebrate your uniqueness.