University is not just about academics; it is a place where emotions, experiences, and opportunities go beyond the classroom environment. For many students, flying the coop and moving in with their friends is a big part of university life. Yes, this milestone of living without parental guidance is adventurous and exciting, but it is also filled with lessons and realizations about yourself and others.
For the past three years, I have been living in a student house with six other girls. It is chaotic, loud, loving, and the best experience that university has given me. At the end of the day, we are just young adults trying to figure out life. Here are three lessons I have learned over the years that can hopefully give other students insight into how roommates can change your life and perspective.
Say Yes More
Academics can take over your life, especially when you are approaching mid-terms and exam season. For some people, including myself, getting trapped and isolated in your room can become a regular occurrence, all thanks to the endless list of school assignments. Saying yes encourages you to get out of your room, escape the stress of school, and become more social.
Say yes more to going on a walk, grabbing takeout, watching a movie, or having a nacho night. These are the memories you will cherish forever and will make your university experience more enjoyable and stress-free.
Anxiety Is Not a Singular Experience
Living with a group of people means you no longer live in your own bubble. You are now supporting your friends who are also going through various feelings and experiences from both school and life. It is important to remind yourself that everyone manages and expresses anxiety differently than what you may be used to. So, if your roommate is extra upset about the dirty dishes or is not in a chatty mood, think twice before assuming or starting a disagreement. Remember to be patient, sympathetic, and loving towards your roommates. Everyone has their own battles; your student house will become a strong support system if everyone comes together.
Everyone Has a Different Upbringing
One of the quickest realizations that occurred to me upon moving in with my friends was that everyone was raised with different parental guidance and expectations. Yes, we have shared experiences, but there remains a gap in certain aspects of life. For instance, how one person views house cleaning and manners can vary from someone else’s perspective. Have an open mind, and remember that compromising and communication will become your best friend.
“Adulting” is the best way to describe living with roommates at university. You will notice a big change in your independence, responsibilities, and perspectives on life. I will forever recommend this experience as it has allowed me to grow as a person while bringing my friend group closer to each other!