September 2022 marked the beginning of my fourth and final year of university. I often catch myself reminiscing on how time flew by, feeling as though it was just yesterday that I stepped foot on campus for the very first time. As I reflected on my last four years, I came to the epiphany that all my experiences have had a profound change on who I am today. Every year, I came to learn something new, not only about myself but about life as a whole. So here it goes: my top five learning experiences from university that have shaped the person I am today.
1. Everyone is on their own path.
I cannot emphasize this enough, and this is why I put this as my first learning experience. Everyone has their own journey and timeline. I often felt as though I was in some sort of race, to accomplish certain milestones by a specific age, or to have all my future plans set in stone. Even as a fourth year student, I have little clarity on my next steps after graduation. However, I’ve come to accept that sometimes you are not afforded the clarity you need, and learning to accept that and work around it can make a huge difference. With every passing year, I came to realize that finding your footing takes time, and that is completely alright! Comparing yourself to others is often fruitless because your journey is distinct and unique.
2. Do things for yourself.
In university, it can be easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of daily activities. Taking time out for yourself, and spending time doing things you love can make all the difference. I found that taking daily walks, especially around the Westdale neighbourhood, and listening to podcasts or music was when I could spend time away from the busyness of everyday life, and quiet my mind.
3. Your 20s are about exploring new things.
Stepping outside your comfort zone can lead to new adventures and the creation of core memories. I remember my second year when I started saying ‘yes’ to the things I wanted to do, without spending hours at end contemplating the decision. Doing so often led to some of my happiest moments, and the creation of core memories.
4. Learning to say ‘no’.
Of course, the above point also comes with a caveat, which is being able to say ‘no’ when you want to. Do not be afraid to express your opinions, and stand your ground. If you do not feel comfortable doing something or going somewhere, you can refuse. You are in charge of your life, and should never be apologetic for this!
5. Find happiness in the small things.
Most of all, my four years taught me that sometimes it really is the small things, whether it be taking a walk amidst the autumn trees in Cootes Paradise or watching movies late at night with friends, that end up being some of the best moments. Finding solace in the tiny moments of life reminds us this is what it is all about – being present and enjoying yourself as much as you can.
Leaving university, I feel immensely bittersweet. I will absolutely miss the last four years, the friendships I have made, and everything my undergraduate years taught me. But I look forward to the next phase of life and hope I can carry everything I learned with me as I take my next steps.