Many of us are drawn to Pretty Little Liars mainly because we’re just dying to know who A is (and because of the incredibly cute outfits worn on the show). However, I think that this show can enlighten us on some things that we never really thought about before. Now we all might find a little of ourselves in Aria, Emily, Spencer, Hanna, or even Alison. But we are missing out on the bigger picture—these girls are often caught in lies that they didn’t necessarily have to tell in the first place. It got me to thinking—all girls are pretty little liars in this sense. We often lie about things that we really shouldn’t just to make ourselves look or feel better.
Here are the most common things we as girls tend to lie about:
Weight
Honestly, there is no reason to lie about your weight. You are beautiful no matter what the number on the scale has to say. If your weight isn’t where you want it to be, then go about changing it in a HEALTHY way. The most important thing is that you are comfortable and confident in the skin you are in. Loving who you are is way more important than any number.
Clothing sizes
This goes hand-in-hand with our weight. If you are trying to squeeze into clothes that are three sizes too small just because you don’t want to be in double digits, please stop. The size of the clothing doesn’t matter as long as it looks good for your body type. No one notices what size your clothes are unless they are too small or too big.
How much we work out/exercise
Saying we work out or do yoga or spin classes sounds great and makes you seem like you have your life together. But if your idea of working out includes chips, pizza, and Netflix, it’s okay (as long as it’s not an everyday occurrence). That doesn’t mean that you don’t have your life together. However, it is important to at least get out and take a good walk every now and then if you aren’t into intense exercising.
Diet/appetite
I’m not afraid to admit it—I have the appetite of a football player. You shouldn’t be ashamed if you like to eat or if your appetite is a bigger than some girls. Don’t go hungry for anyone’s sake. It doesn’t matter if you’re a steak and potatoes girl or a salad girl (or if you can’t decide and eat both). It’s also okay if you aren’t the healthiest of eaters. Eat your cheeseburgers, because the girls that are staring at you are doing so out of envy (unless, of course, they don’t eat meat).
Where we get our clothes/shoes from
So many girls lie about where they get their clothes from out of fear of someone “copying” them or being ashamed that it’s not designer. Who cares where it came from if it’s cute and you like it? If I see anything cute, I don’t care where it is, if I like it I’m buying it. If someone does decide to get something that you have, you should take it as a compliment and be confident enough in yourself to know that no one can rock it like you.
Feelings
Saying that we are fine when we know we aren’t. Going along with someone’s ideas even when we don’t agree with it. Beating around the bush because we are afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. We all do it. The bad thing is that we often end up hurting ourselves trying not to hurt other people. Don’t be afraid to let your opinion be known. Say what you need to say (in the words of John Mayer).
Times we have been wrong
No one likes to admit when they are wrong. It hurts our pride. We can’t let our ego stand in the way though. If we are wrong, we should be able to be a big girl about it and figure out how to make it right. No one knows everything and there will be many times when we are wrong—might as well learn how to deal with it now and move on.
Buying something we don’t need
We will tell ourselves all kinds of lies to justify buying something that we really and truly don’t need. Especially if it’s a cute pair of shoes (my personal weakness). We just need to look at the reality of the situation. Usually when we go shopping, we have something in mind that we need or want. If that item wasn’t on that list, don’t get it. Learn how to walk away. Buying something just because it’s on sale is not a good enough reason.
Now that we’re all on one page and understand each other a little better… can someone PLEASE tell us who A is!