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Falling in Love with Potential

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Danielle Pransky
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Montclair chapter.

Guys fall in love with the girl that reminds them of their mother while girls fall in love with the guy that comforts them like their father. Some of us simply fall in love with potential. 

Do you have that person in your life that you love dearly? That person that has so much potential, they just aren’t living up to it? There is nothing wrong with seeing someone’s vision and believing in them. There is something wrong with falling in love with potential. 

The problem arises when you realize that you’ve fallen in love with potential. See at first we don’t realize that this has happened, especially when you’re young. When you begin to grow, emotionally and mentally, the non-growth of others becomes more clear. You focused on all the good for so long that you hoped that the “bad” would get better. The beginning, “honeymoon stage”, is so exciting and new but that’s because the beginning is always good. The individual you’ve fallen in love with won’t live up to reality. You’re expecting something from someone that has no intention of acquiring those things for themself. Potential isn’t enough when love is involved because you should love someone for their flaws as well as the things they do that make your heart flutter. If you love someone with the expectation that they will change you will quickly fall out of love. You should enter love accepting someone for who they are. Then when they grow, when they evolve, when they live up to their potential you will have even more reasons to love that person. 

It’s hard, who wants to be negative but potential can make us all be so naive at times. Don’t set the bar too high, too far to reach. Stop trying to build the perfect person because they do not exist. If you except someone as they are, they’ll be perfect enough.  

 

Sources: 1, 2, 3

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I am a Jurisprudence, Law, and Society major at Montclair State University with a minor in Leadership through civic engagement. I am also a Self Love enthusiast on Youtube ( Teegabrielle ). I am a Team Leader for Jumpstart at MSU where I work towards bridging the literature skills gap in the preschool classrooms of public schools. ByTeegabrielle@gmail.com https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLjtZPh5AtFmM2Ldf_h9z8g
Danielle has held various positions at Her Campus Montclair. Starting as a Contributing Writer during her sophomore year at MSU in 2015, she later became President & Editor-in-Chief during her senior year in 2017. She completed her B.A. in Communication & Media Arts with a minor in Leadership Development at Montclair State University in January 2018. Besides writing, she's a lover of cozy cafés, good lyrics, inspiring speeches, mountainous retreats, and sunsets on the skyline. She enjoys capturing the moment and has a passion for travel and discovery. You can often find her exploring NYC or venturing to one of her favorite East Coast spots.