Boy Detox: Tips on Getting Over “Him”

Whether you dated for three months or three years, the pain of a breakup feels as though it hurts all the same. You’ve been waiting and waiting for that epic phone call where he admits that he made a mistake, but it just isn’t coming. If its weeks later and you’re still finding it hard to move on, maybe it’s time for a new approach.  Take a look at these tips to help you get over that breakup that’s been bothering you.
 
Get The Grieving Over With
It’s important to let yourself break down and feel what you’re feeling inside. The earlier you let your tears out the better. Speaking from personal experience, I’ve found that if you hold it in for too long, your emotions will catch up with you and you’ll break down even harder. Get the crying over with in the early stages of the breakup so that you’re refreshed and ready to start moving forward. The sappy music and bed rest is only acceptable for so long—it’s okay to feel sad in the moment, as long as that moment doesn’t last for weeks.
 
It Takes Effort
In order to truly get over him, you have to be willing to try. It will be painful in the beginning but totally worth it in the long run. If he’s still present in your life, you’re never going to get over him. Start by getting rid of the things that remind you of him—you know, those pictures of you two on your corkboard, next to your bed, and on your computer. You don’t have to throw these things away, but leaving them to decorate the walls of your bedroom isn’t healthy either. Store them away in your closet until you know you’re ready to see them again.
 
Another important thing to do is delete your old text messages from him. Reminiscing on the past via iPhone will only keep you wrapped up in the moment.
 
The hardest—but most important—thing that you need to do is to get the question “what if” out of your head. If you’re constantly asking yourself, “What if I had done something different? What if I see him tonight? What if he’s already found someone else?” you won’t be able to move on to a better and brighter future without him.
 
Accept That It’s Over
Do you find yourself sitting around wondering if you should text him? It’s probably not the best idea. The truth is, if he wants to talk to you, he will, and if he doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be. It may be hard to accept, but it will keep him from knowing that you aren’t over the breakup.
 
Decide To Be In A Good Mood
Once the tears are gone, you’ll be ready to take a step forward. Start your morning on a good note by deciding that it will be a good day. Wake up early, make a healthy breakfast, and get yourself dressed and ready for the day instead of spending it in bed with Nicholas Sparks movies.
 
Get Out There
You may not be ready to date yet, but going out with your girlfriends is great therapy. Spending time with them, whether it’s at a movie, a party, or even a trip to the mall will help lift your spirits. A change of scenery after being cooped up in your bedroom all that time won’t hurt either.
 
A Great Excuse For A New You
A breakup is a great opportunity for a makeover because a new look will help you to feel refreshed. It’s the perfect time to try something that you’ve always wanted to try but you kept putting off because you were worried about what he would think. Maybe it’s a drastic  new haircut and color or a new pair of jeans. How about redecorating your bedroom? This is a great project because it will give you a fresh, new setting and will help take your mind off of him.
 
Hitting up the gym is a great element of a boy detox. A session of yoga will give you a chance to clear your mind and relax, while toning your muscles and getting you into great shape at the same time. The morning after a bad breakup, I took a kickboxing class at my local gym. It was a great way to get rid of the anger that was built up inside, rather than taking it out on someone else.
 
If you’re stuck in the midst of an emotional breakup and are looking for a way out, a little bit of effort and some fun and progressive activities are all you need. Don’t wait for his phone call, take control of your life by moving forward!