Everyone knows what season is coming up…cold weather, lots of food, cheesy Christmas movies, and the strange feeling you need to be in a relationship. With Thanksgiving and Christmas quickly approaching the number of people who are rushing to find someone to spend the holidays with is absolutely insane. I totally understand they want to have someone to make gingerbread houses and cuddle up to watch Christmas movies with but I think there’s also something special about being single around the holidays. I know, that sounds super sad but it doesn’t have to be. How you set your mind is exactly how your holiday season is going to turn out. If you decide to mope and be sad that you don’t have someone for these next few months then eventually that will be your mind’s main focus and you won’t be able to see all the great things already around you.
As someone who has been single basically all my life, I have spent so many holidays without that “special someone” and throughout the years I began to realize when I change how I think about the situation my entire outlook also changes. Make cookies, go see Christmas lights, watch movies, and do all these things by yourself or with family and friends. Of course, there are times when I wish I had that person to do cute holiday things with but now I am focusing more on not only self-reflection and love but also spending time with my family and friends that have always been there for me.
There’s no specific perfect time to work on self-love and understanding, but I can say why not start now? Instead of focusing on the one missing aspect in your life, focus on all those around you who already love you. Take the time to understand yourself and grow in love with who you are. I’m a firm believer that to love someone else you need to love yourself first. So spend some alone time with yourself and truly fall in love with you.