This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Northwestern chapter.
Valentine’s Day, Galentine’s Day… what about time with your casual hook-up or not-official-semi-significant other? It can be difficult to figure out what exactly you should do, or if you should even do anything. Her Campus is here to sort through everything and help give every collegiette something to do with her bae no matter what the relationship.
The look of pure terror over Valentine’s Day plans.
For the casual hook-up:
Small or funny gifts are the way to go! If you want to make plans, you can bring it up as more of a, “What are you doing on Sunday?” rather than a, “Want to go out for Valentine’s Day?” This more casual approach will make it easier to make plans without the pressure that comes with the holiday, and if you want to get a little something or a gag gift it won’t be weird. You can also hang out with a group of mutual friends to spend time with them in a relaxed atmosphere.
For the person you’ve hooked up with a couple times, and want something more:
Try a movie at your apartment or a low-key hangout like grabbing Chipotle. Intimate experiences in casual settings (like fast food chains) are the perfect balance for an ambiguous relationship. Like with a casual hook-up, a small gift works perfectly, and if you really want it to go somewhere make it something thoughtful! Think of things they enjoy or need, but keep the price-point low.
For the person you’ve been hooking up with for a while:
With someone you’ve been with for a while, moving into more of the date-type V-Day is totally okay. Try something fun like karaoke or seeing stand-up! They are light-hearted, but more serious than a casual hangout at home. A cute gift that’s not too pricey can be a good option, but is not necessary if the relationship is not moving towards “exclusive” anytime soon.
For the person who’s your almost-significant other:
Semi-significant other, significant other… is there a difference? Ok, maybe a little. Making dinner at home together is a nice way to bond and have an intimate experience while not going over the top with the price of a fancy restaurant. Movie-watching and cuddling are optional (but encouraged) and a meaningful gift is appropriate if you have something in mind!
The most important thing is to not put too much importance on Valentine’s Day. If your hook-up is busy, don’t fret! Plan a fun night out with the girls or treat yourself to a spa night in with your best friend. Love it and enjoy the weekend without drowning your sorrows in bottles of wine Olivia Pope-style. Being single is wonderful!