Whether you’re staying on campus to get ahead on that orgo class or zipping off to Hawaii with your parents, there is always a chance to pursue a summer fling. The beauty of the summer fling lies in its temporary quality, giving even the most timid girls a chance to redefine themselves as they please. But as much as the idea of a fling sounds self-explanatory, it could be difficult to incorporate the right place, person and time to create a memorable, sizzling experience.
1) Be adventurous: explore places you’ve never been to, like a bar in the next town or your friend’s parents’ country club. Sticking to the same places you loiter around during the school year could keep you in a rut in terms of the faces you meet.
2) Avoid bring an entourage: Some guys could find it intimidating to approach a group of girls as opposed to just one girl, and plus you’d have to work harder to be noticed among your usual, energetic bunch of friends. Take some me-time, don a new dress and visit a place new, alone.
3) Pick up the right signs: If you’re at a bar and a guy is facing the bartender and is downing his third drink, his body language is telling you that he’s just out for a drink alone. But if the guy is turned towards a crowd, eyes following any movement in the bar, he’s on the prowl. Just as you need to be alone for the guy to make a move, a guy going solo is probably a good sign he’s doing the same.
4) Be clear and direct: Once you find your lucky guy, make it clear from the start that you’re not looking for anything past the summer. You two must be on the same page to make sure there are no hard feelings or loose ends. This also ensures that you can be at ease knowing he will not be pressuring you into a relationship, at least for now.
5) Be confident: It’s a summer fling, you have nothing to lose. What better time is there to put yourself out there and be open to surprises. Even if you somehow make a fool of yourself or find out you really dislike this guy, you never have to see him again.