Ending a relationship can be a big decision. Most college flings are short-lived and easy to cut ties. But how do you know when it’s time to call it quits in a more serious relationship? Here are some common and important reasons to call it quits.
1. Harm is being inflicted.
Of course the most obvious reason to break up is at the first sign of abuse. Emotional, physical or any sort of hurtful action is unacceptable and should immediately be put to an end. But, there are other reasons to instigate a break up.
2. You don’t want to be alone
If the only thing keeping you in the relationship is the fact that you’re too scared to be single again or you’re afraid you won’t find someone else; both are usually signs that it is time to move on. Face it, you’re clearly not happy in the relationship, so why keep going through the motions? And the sooner you move on from it, the better of a chance that you are going to find somebody else.
3. Your eyes are always on someone else.
If you have cheated, constantly compare your man to others or even can’t quit thinking about an ex, then it is time to throw in the towel! These things wouldn’t be happening if the relationship were meant to be. That voice in the back of your head making you do these things is really trying to tell you something bigger, “Your heart just isn’t in it.” So, save yourself, or the other person the hurt by calling it off now.
4. It’s too much work.
If you find yourself feeling that you are the one putting in all of the work then you shouldn’t keep trying. There is a reason relationships are made up of two people. A relationship isn’t meant to be one sided and a successful one definitely won’t form that way! Often an easy way to see if this is happening is if you find yourself feeling more sad than happy. This can be caused by constant fighting, with only you attempting to resolve the issues. If he isn’t willing to put in the work, then you shouldn’t waste your time trying either.
5. People in your life don’t approve.
The last big reason to break up is if your friends and family are strongly against the relationship. If one person shares their unwelcome opinion with you, then it is ok to brush it off, but if they all feel the same way then that usually means they are seeing something you can’t or don’t want to admit. Love can be blinding.