Dear RLCG,
I’m in love with a married man. He says he’s planning on getting divorced in a month, but I’m stuck on whether or not I should keep talking to him until then. He wants me to spend a couple days with him over Spring Break, but I’m not sure if I should or wait until his divorce is finalized.Â
Don’t be an outlet or a “replacement” for his old love interest. You want to make sure that he is making efforts to be with you because he genuinely has feelings for you, not because he has a hole in his life he is looking to fill. That being said, keep in mind divorces don’t happen overnight, not just in the courtoom but emotionally as well. Feelings aside, you need to be up front with him about how comfortable you feel about spending a few days with a married man over Spring Break. Set your boundaries, and then have him show that he has genuine feelings for you before you make the jump to get heavily involved with him.