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Frisky Fridays: The Right to Toys, Handcuffs, and the Pursuit of All Things Frisky

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Pitt chapter.

 

A few weeks ago, Her Campus Pitt held a small, quaint gathering for a sex toy party. We made margaritas, had a few glasses of wine, and let the dildos and vibrators fly. We giggled like little girls, raised our eyebrows, and stretched our eyes wide at the expansive range of “products” that the consultant laid out in front of us. Even though we behaved like children, I know in more than a few cases, some girls were thinking about how to incorporate all the toys, lube, different gels, and handcuffs into their everyday sex lives.

In many cases, when people think about incorporating sex toys in the bedroom, they think of large, scary, industrial sized vibrators, porn, and maybe even Fifty Shades of Grey. Or, if they’re anything like me, they think of the episode of Sex in the City, when Charlotte got her first vibrator and went nuts. However, in retrospect, Charlotte may not have been too far off in, ahem, expressing the joys of using a sex toy. It’s liberating, fun, and makes you feel a little bit naughty. What about using one the next time your boyfriend comes over for a cozy night in? Sex toys aren’t just limited to vibrators and dildos. There’s a whole host of other sex toys, that may tickle your fancy, and other unmentionable places, that you maybe haven’t given much thought. So here’re a few tips that just might make that “cozy night in” a bit sexier:

  1. Cock Rings:

They vibrate, they’re stretchy, and they can make a woman buckle to her knees faster than any Tiffany’s diamond bracelet. It will basically turn your guy into a human vibrator. One guy interviewed, even said they will definitely make him last longer, and who wouldn’t like that? Invest in a good one, and you guys may just want to barricade yourselves in a room and never come out until the batteries die.   

  1. Handcuffs:

Whether you’re tying up your partner with those fuzzy handcuffs that you got as a practical joke from your best friend, or with that stupid rubber ducky tie that he has just lying around, using restraints in the bedroom can be amazing. It forces you to relinquish all control to your partner in a freeing, yet oddly stimulating, way. It heightens every orgasm that ripples through your body because all you can do it let it take over your senses. By giving up all control, and letting your partner please you by using every dirty trick that comes to mind, you not only have an amazing orgasm, but it increases your desire to be just as naughty with them!

  1. Blindfolds

Sight is probably the most heightened sense when being turned on. You see the outline of her hips, the curve in his back, and every sexy muscle that defines his, or her, body. But what if you didn’t have this sense? You’d be left to touching every inch of your partner’s body, and sometimes that can be just about, if not more, erotic, than seeing those features. You’ll feel the rise and fall of their chest as they catch their breath, the softness of her breasts, and the strong molds of his muscles as you both get down and dirty without seeing a thing. So what if you use that pillow case not for sleeping, but as a blindfold. I’m sure you’ll have much more fun getting handsy with each other than sleeping anyway!

So next time you feel that your love life is a little too bland, and in need of something a bit friskier, try one of these tips! It’s never too late to change things up with that special someone, or even to be more adventurous with that new someone. Sex should be fun, passionate, and exciting. Why settle for bland when you can be frisky?

Until next time my lovelies,

Nahja xxx

 

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I'm a current Junior at the University of Pittsburgh, majoring in Political Science and minoring in Spanish language! I was born and raised in Philadelphia and I am a huge city kid! I'm very open about most things in my life; Sex, drinking, partying, friendships, etc. (you name it). I'm a firm believer of loving and knowing yourself before allowing others to make those decisions for you. If you don't love yourself or know who you are, then others never will!