Loving your partner is hard but breaking-up is even harder.
Breaking up with someone you have intimate relationship with is like losing a loved one that has passed away and feeling like you’ve lost them forever. The pain might only could be explained through the lyrics and sad songs – a.k.a Taylor Swift. Here are some things I recommend doing to repair a broken heart.
- Cry as much as you want. But set a time period.
The acknowledgment of your sadness is important and crying could be a good release mechanism. Try to set a time limit for yourself as it will help you be productive in your period of mourning.
- Put your phone down and journal.
Trust me. There is no need whatsoever to block your partner or keep checking his/her online status as this will only make yourself get more emotional and jealous. I would recommend going on a walk or writing down how your present emotions. Just write and see where it takes you.
- Talk to your friends and family.
Don’t be afraid to talk about your situation to the people who care about the most. Don’t think that they don’t understand your situation/experience as the majority of people have dealt with heartbreak in their lifetimes. They could even give you helpful advice as they know you the best.
- Make a daily timetable.
When you break up with a long-term partner, sometimes, it seems the world around you is falling apart. Instead of being controlled by your sad thoughts, grab a calendar or notebook and write three things you need to get done that specific day – laundry or go to class. This will distract you from your hopeless thoughts and help get you back to normal life.
- Exercise.
Get yourself moving! Either go for a walk or hit the gym. This will release endorphins that could overall give you a burst of good energy.
- Stay with your routine.
Don’t give up on taking care of yourself. I know it’s hard to get out of bed but keeping up with appearances will give you some confidence back. Wearing you favorite outfit, doing your make-up, and keeping up with your skincare will help you gain your confidence back. Remember that your beautiful and deserve love unconditionally.
- Do what you love.
There are many things you can do without a partner. Do the things you love or pick up a new hobby you’ve always wanted to pick up. Challenge yourself! I am sure all these little changes will give you some new perspective on life.
- Travel.
Eat, Pray, Love vibes. Visit a new place you have always wanted to explore no matter if it’s a place near campus or across the world. The journey is going to give you an answer to your doubts and give you the peace you are currently seeking. Travel will broaden your mind through experiencing different cultures and events.
Break-ups are no easy feat and healing takes a significant amount of time. It’s easier said than done but I hope you consider my article as a source of advice. Remember that you are loved and are not a burden.