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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at RW chapter.

As many of us know the number one way to be as happy as possible starts with ourselves. Self love means putting our own needs first and not letting others get in the way of that.  We need to stick true to our values and beliefs and not let the judgement of others change your mind.  There are so many different ways to express self love but it is simply doing things you love, for yourself and finding a purpose within yourself. Below are some ways that can help you find your inner happiness.

 

1. Stop comparing yourself to other people because this is going to get you nowhere. We tend to spend so much time  worrying why we do not look a certain way or dress like others around us. Everyone is different in their own beautiful way. What you need to do is focus on what your strengths are and compete with yourself. If you look at other people’s accomplishments and get upset, look at your own and try to come up with ways to better yourself and get stronger for the next time. Once you start seeing how much you are capable of you will gain confidence to keep going. And yes, mistakes will be made but this should just make you want to work harder on accomplishing your goals.  

 

2. Be proud of your friends for their success and strengths. We all have different ways of approaching certain situations and how we deal with them. It sometimes makes you wonder why you didn’t think about doing that yourself.  But this is the process of self love, it takes time for someone to understand their own capabilities. So by being happy for people around you and treating them with respect it will make you feel better about yourself. Just like we were told in elementary school, use the Golden Rule, “treat others how you want to be treated”. There will be people you come across that will not repay the favor but that is their problem not yours.  

 

3. End all toxic relationships within your life, seriously you need to. We do not deserve to be treated anything less than beautiful and amazing. If there are people in your life who hold you back from being your best self then cut them off.  It will be hard at first but trust me it will be the best decision you ever make once you see how much happier you will be. Everything you do from this point on will no longer have to revolve around making this person happy and doing things for them instead of yourself.  

 

We all deserve to be the best versions of ourselves, ladies! So no more waiting around, make the proper changes to your life that will end in a happier you. Be true to yourself always and remember the number one secret to happiness is falling in love with who you are!

 

My name is Maegan Varley and I am a senior at RWU majoring in marketing and minor in psychology. I am from Berlin, CT and enjoy cooking in my free time as well as spending time with family and friends.
Hi, I'm Jessie, the Campus Coordinator and Founder of Her Campus at Roger Williams University! I am a senior majoring in Communication and Media Studies and minoring in Marketing and Graphic Design. When not in school, I love to work out, shop, listen to music and spend time with my friends!