How to Stay in Touch with Your High School Besties

Staying in touch with people can be really hard, especially when you are overwhelmed and really busy with classwork, family, activities, and work. It’s very difficult to catch up on what all of your friends are doing, when you will not see them for three or four months and can only talk to them over the phone. Keeping in touch is hard work and takes time. Here are some tips to keep in touch with your high school besties. 

1. Figure out what’s best for you.
   • Only you know the best way for you to communicate with someone and it’s up to you to find out what that is. Maybe it’s randomly texting them, facetiming, or just sending them memes and tik toks. Once you will figure out the best method for how to communicate with them, get into a rhythm and try to establish a connection with your friends as part of your daily routine. 
2. Schedule a time to talk.
   1. Plan your week out and reach out to your friends to see when they are available. Personally, I find that it’s best on Sunday to make a schedule for the upcoming week. I write all of the events, classes, activities, and meetings I have on my calendar. Then I see when I am available to talk, and see if they are available then too. Once you find a time that you are both available, then you can add it to your calendar and have another thing to look forward to.

      

3. Make plans to see each other
   1. This is not an easy thing to do especially with Covid, but try to see if there is one day when you can meet up somewhere and be socially distanced from each other. Although this would be a difficult thing to do, it can really be beneficial and it would give you a chance to talk face to face and be together again. If you can’t meet up in person try having a facetime dinner where you eat together and can talk then!
4. Be open and honest with each other
   1. Open and honest friendships are the best kinds to have. If you can’t be honest with each other then you may never be able to have a true friendship. You need to tell your friends how you are feeling and tell them if there is a problem. True friends will be there for you and help you get over that speed bump and move on from it.  
5. Genuinely care about them and show it 
   1. Show that you actually care about them and miss them. Reach out to them if you think of them randomly or send them things that remind you of them. People will always appreciate that someone is thinking about them and it can start a new conversation. 

Staying in touch with friends should not feel like a burden. It should feel like an exciting and happy thing to do. You should want to talk to them and see what’s happening in their life and the same should be true for them. Remember that every relationship you have is different from the other and not to compare them. Always try to keep your friendships healthy and happy.   

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