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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at SAU chapter.

Dear ______, 

Sometimes things get tricky and you don’t know what to do. You love with passion and it tends to get you hurt. You started seeing a pattern in the guys you like which aren’t the best for you. You found the good guy once but ended on good terms because the timing wasn’t right. A series of wrong guys came back around again and you now don’t trust your choices. The good guy is back but you’re afraid to take the leap. I don’t blame you because some things are too much to handle. What if the timing is wrong again? What if because you ignored the red flags of guys from the past that you can’t open up to him like you used to fully. Sometimes you get in your own head and overthink but what if you lose him because you’re afraid? What if you commit and then he changes his mind? We both know that your body, mind, and heart has been through a lot so even taking a step to open up is a huge thing. You have told this guy so much about your past. What if he uses it against you? What if it is too much for him? It’s hard to be confident and make choices if you don’t trust yourself. 

Let me tell you something! You have overcome so much and are stronger than you sometimes remember. Don’t sell yourself short because you have so much going for you. What you see is a pattern that can be broken. Go for the good guy and take a chance because you might not get it again. You can be careful with your heart but also show love. You don’t need to worry about everything because that is how you get stuck. Flow with the punches and what is meant to be will work out and if you can’t make it work that is also okay. Not everything is meant for you. Red flags are things that should be noticed so don’t make excuses for the guy. Why keep getting in your own head? Don’t forget how much you have to offer and commit even if it scares you sometimes. You are going to make mistakes in life and they will be beautiful lessons. They may sting at first but you will learn so much. You have been through a lot yet your body is healed and still standing, your mind is strong and resilient, your heart keeps beating and will love again. Trust yourself and have confidence. Tell yourself “Dear Heart I am fighting my way back to you!” 

–Your Heart

Veronica A(V) is the Campus Correspondent at HC @ SAU. She oversees the entire chapter including editorial, events, social media, etc. Beyond HC, V is involved on campus. She is the President of DAPi. She is the Social Media Director for SAAT, and a Sexual Assault Advocate. Veronica is majoring in Early Childhood Education with an endorsement in Special Education and a minor in Music. She is currently student teaching!!! In her freetime, V plays the flute and other instruments and can sing. She used to play and coach softball. Veronica was born in Florida but now lives in Illinois. She also has 2 cats at home. She was the D.E.I. Ambassador for 2 years.