Whenever a certain holiday comes around the corner, people are reminded of their relationship status, “…in a relationship, it’s complicated, or single.” Especially on Valentine’s Day, people tend to feel more single, or worse about their selves. But why does it have to be like that? Who says you can’t be in love with someone if you aren’t in a relationship. What about the self-love? Isn’t that the most important concept of love?
Someone wise once told me, “You can’t fully love someone else, until you love and accept yourself.” I believe that this philosophy is one-hundred percent true. A part of being human is having insecurity issues. I asked a friend of mine on campus about how she overcomes insecurities in her life. Emily says, “Sometimes I am reminded of my flaws, but I also remember what makes me beautiful as a person. No one is perfect. The flaws make you beautiful.”
Every person is beautiful; every man, every woman. On holidays like Valentine’s Day, it is easy to feel lonely because someone isn’t giving you chocolates and kisses. Who needs that to feel loved? Self-love is the most powerful love. As someone who struggles with self-acceptance, I know that this holiday can be a little annoying, but I surround myself by expressing love to others, people who love me, and the amount of love the world has to offer in return. Self-love is a challenge for all, but once a person can accept love, an over-abundance of love can be brought into someone’s life.
Every person must show compassion to their selves. One must be gentle to their soul, this only makes them stronger. Every person must believe that they are good enough, not for others, but themselves. Believe that no one defines a person but an individual defines the way they live out their lives. A person who fully loves their selves first strongly, loves others passionately, contributes humility and kindness, then a person lives to their fullest potential.
You are not invisible. You are a strong, beautiful, compassionate, gentle person. I believe it, do you?