We’ve all done it. We’ve gone days without talking to our roommate because of something they did. We give them the look every time we see them, put in our headphones as soon as they walk in the room, or even just plain ignore them. However, think about it, are you really mad at her for something that serious?
   I can almost guaruntee that every set of roommates has gone through some type of drama, whether it’s something huge or something small. We have those moments where we completely shut out our roommate and don’t talk to them for days at a time. I know, I have been there. However, looking back on it, I can honestly say that every time it happened to me it was about something completely absurd. I used to live in a house with five other girls. Between classes and volleyball practices, we were with each other almost every hour of the day. I remember having to schedule house meetings at least every other week because someone was upset about something. We would have meetings about people being too messy, not liking each others significat other, the dishes never getting done, and even about people eating other people’s food. Looking back on it now, I can’t help but to laugh. All of this unesscessary drama did was stress us out.Â
   Sometimes you have to ask yourself if getting upset is really worth it. RA’s told me they had to once help resolve a roommate incident because one girl ate the other’s last Twinkie. Think about it, you’re fighting over a Twinkie!? Looking back, I have come to notice that girls can get mad over anything, and when it’s over something very small there’s usually something bigger happening. When these things are present in your life, you need to sit back and think, are you really upset with your roommate or are you taking something else out on her? I advise to think about that before you start to shut her out. Another word of advice would be communicate, communicate, communicate. I don’t know how many times I have relieved my stress by merely talking to or telling my roommate about what’s going on in my life. Also, this way, if she knows what is going on, she will be more understanding if you may take it out on her and she will be there for you every step of the way. However, if she truly did do something to upset you, TELL HER! Don’t let her wonder around trying to figure out what she did wrong. This way she knows what she did and can remember it for the future.
Overall, don’t shut your roommate out because, in the end, she is usually the one who is there to help you get through the school year. After all, she’s the one who has seen you at your worst and your best.