“I’ve been thinking about you this week!” Â
“Your favorite day is coming up!”Â
“I used to dread Valentine’s Day before I met you, now I can’t wait for it!”Â
All of these things have been said to me multiple times this week leading up to one of my days of the year: Valentine’s Day. I know, I know, it’s a hot take. But I have been on a mission since my junior year of high school to share my joy and love of the holiday with others.Â
Sitting in school, 16-year-old me was sick and tired of hearing my single friends complain and be negative about Valentine’s Day because they didn’t have a significant other in their life to make it better. When did we lose the joy Valentine’s had brought in elementary school? The in-class celebrations and card exchanges used to bring so much excitement, and now my friends thought Valentine’s had nothing to offer without a romantic partner.
I didn’t share their sentiments.
My parents took me out every Valentine’s Day, so I never felt as though the holiday was about romance–to me, it was just about love. And I wanted my friends to realize that they, too, had love in their life that should be celebrated, even if it wasn’t romantic. How could I show them? It started with a trip to Dollar Tree. Â
At Dollar Tree, I headed to the Valentine’s aisle and loaded up with valentines, toys, trinkets, necklaces and everything in between. Afterward, I headed to Walgreens to grab bags of candy. I brought my loot home, opened it all up and emptied it into grocery bags to transport to school. Everyone in each of my classes that year got some form of a Valentine. And thus, a tradition was born.Â
For the last six Valentine’s Days, I have made silly Valentine’s for all of my friends. Since being at college, I have hosted multiple Valentine’s parties/outings, from getting Applebee’s appetizers to making marry-me chicken pasta to munching on some “nuggets of love.” Valentine’s Day has become an excuse for me to ensure that my friends know how much I love them. That our friendship and our love deserve to be celebrated, too.Â
This is my first Valentine’s Day with a romantic valentine. And I am so excited to share my favorite holiday with Hayden. But this is not my first “real” Valentine’s Day. The love between myself and my parents, my friends and my roommates that I have celebrated every other Valentine’s Day is just as valid and real as any romantic love. Â
So, for any of you single people out there that find yourself rolling your eyes or avoiding social media today, find a way to celebrate the relationships in your lives. Buy your roommate flowers, call your mom, grab a pizza with some friends, or celebrate your relationship with yourself and enjoy a face mask and your favorite show. Whatever you do, do not think that your Valentine’s is wasted because you don’t have a romantic partner. Your life is full of love, you just have to take the opportunity to recognize it. Â