After my last feature article about going braless, my boyfriend was still in disbelief that “cute” undergarments could be uncomfortable. After all, they’re made to touch your most intimate regions, what could be so uncomfortable about three inches of padding squishing your chest into your rib cage and a literal string between your legs? So we made a deal. No matter how much I tried to explain how uncomfortable lingerie can be, my argument kept coming down to “well you haven’t tried it!” Thus a challenge was born.
From the time he woke up to the time he went to bed he was to wear his own set of frilly undergarments, which included a black lacy bra and a black lace thong from Walmart (yes, he insisted they match). There was no ultimatum, and no end goal other than for him to see what it’s like to wear sexy underwear for a day. He was to document his day with pictures and text updates and was to go about his regularly daily activities without taking the bra off. Here is how his experience went:
11 am-2pm
He put them on when he woke up and was just hanging out around the house the first few hours.
“The thong was REALLY awful for the first 15 minutes but once I got into a comfortable TV watching position it was ok. The bra didn’t really bother me.”
2 pm-4pm
Then he decided to go to the gym.
“It was snowing when I went out and the extra layer gave me boob sweat. I was constantly trying to hide the fact that I was wearing a bra and thong. I kept pulling my shirt down to make sure no one could see if I was whale tailing. The bra started to get really annoying and by the end of the workout it was completely over my boob region. It made for a nice cushion when I was trying to bench though.”
4 pm-5 pm
Off to Zaxby’s with his dad.
“I did NOT feel like explaining this whole thing to him so I just wore a big sweatshirt to cover up. You could still kind of see the bra but it just looked like I had gotten fatter. I hadn’t taken it off to shower or anything so I was basically just stewing in a sweaty bra which was getting really uncomfortable at this point and I couldn’t wait to get it off.
5pm-11pm
At this point he had decided to take the L.
“I didn’t really want to go out so I went back home and watched a full season of Shameless. The bra and thong just got progressively more uncomfortable throughout the day. The straps rubbed my skin raw from all the movement, they were a lot more intense than I thought. Also the thong managed to get wedged probably 6 different ways and every time I fixed it I felt like I was making it worse! I eventually found the trick to thongs and I think you should take note. You just can’t move them at all, just let them do their thing. When I took the bra off at 11 though, MAN that was probably one of the top ten feelings I have EVER felt.”
I could have told him at the beginning of all of this that either way he would not find the undergarments comfortable granted that they were a cheap pair from Walmart AND that they’re designed for women’s bodies but I guess this was a lesson he had to learn for himself. Cute undergarments can be fun and some can be more comfortable than others, but you should never expect your partner to wear anything that they don’t feel comfortable in or happy with. Going out of your comfort zone and trying out new lingerie is one thing, but it should not be an expectation. If your partner respects you, they will love you in anything you wear.
I must say I learned a little something from this whole thing, too. If there’s one thing this gave me was a new respect for him and how secure he is in his manhood. Who knew wearing women’s underwear would make me love my boyfriend a little more.