Source by: David Pereiras/ Shuttershock
Why is it that the human race is so hell bent on holding onto things that we don’t need? For example, retail thrift stores are trendy now; we can take someone’s stretched and worn out clothes, then modify those rags into cheap Kylie Jenner look-a-like riches. After putting down the scissors and E6000 glue you look at the finished product and triumphantly shout “hooray!” It makes us feel good to have something we worked so hard on. Just like holding onto our cheap throwouts we hold onto toxic people in our lives. At times we become so brainwashed and runback to terrible relationships that we should not even be in from the start. It’s not that we can’t get rid of those very real, charming, poisonous walking nightmares, it’s the fact that we just don’t want to.
Let me introduce you to what I call, “The Fool’s Game”: A game where we keep shit to make ourselves feel less shitty. Some of us like to stay in bad relationships because the thought of being alone and learning how to date again can feel so much worse than learning how to let go. This “Fool’s Game”, forces you to feel like you need to keep things for sentimental value even if the sentiment is long forgotten, but the time and effort is remembered. This happens even if the relationship you’re trying to keep has long been lost and the love has long been unresponsive and lifeless. It’s like keeping a dead body in your house; smelling its smell, knowing it’s foul, but putting on a mask of makeup over its rotting face anyway. Using that E6000 glue to lock in dead hair, to keep your eyes shut and to keep your hands interlaced together. We as humans are funny about covering up ugly situations and making them pretty in order to stay sane.
This is how you become a player of “The Fool’s Game”: Going back to your partner after you’ve caught them cheating multiple times; letting abuse happen in various forms whether it’s verbal or physical; letting go of obvious lies, lack of consistency, demanding or controlling behavior. This game is the kind that tears you apart from the inside out. It’s a game that hinders personal growth and keeps you satisfied with false happiness by making you believe that you deserve far less than what you’re worth. The upsetting thing is that most of us have played this very unnatural self-destructive game. Many of us try to find loopholes instead of casting these growing toxins aside. Instead of preserving ourselves, we’ll stand – mentally bruised and battered – good intentions in one hand, E6000 glue in the other, and we’ll all shout hooray.
Know domestic violence from the start and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
If you or anyone you know needs a helping hand please call:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1 (800) 799- SAFE (7233)
1 (800) 787- 3224 (TTY)