I’ve noticed something. The young women on this campus have been acting like girls and I think the saddest part of this is that the guys seem to be ecstatic. Don’t get me wrong, there are some of you out there who are trying to keep the torch burning, but you’re becoming a rare breed.
This is a university and we’re all living the college life. If you’re going to make mistakes or be foolish, now is the time to do it. But you need to understand that over the next four years you are going to be made, unmade, and remade. And what you become is entirely up to you. Don’t assume that by lowering your standards you can get what you want. Don’t assume that these years are your own. The world doesn’t work like that.
Life gives back what you put in and conformity breeds the commonplace. No one is expecting you to be perfect, but you should want to be more. Am I being a little abstract? Okay, I’ll give you that one.
What I’m suggesting is that the females on campus hold themselves to a higher standard. This encompasses changing the small things (how you dress, how you greet people, when you arrive to class). This will lead to changes for the big things. What are the big things? Something tells me you’ll know it when you see it.
All I’m really asking you to do is to value yourself because guys won’t do it for you. Of course, there are a lot of young men out there who do intend to treat you right, but if you don’t project the image of a young woman who’s looking for something substantial, you’re not going to attract them. Change your game and guys will change theirs. If they don’t, you’ll at least succeed in weeding them out. You are young women. You’re not girls anymore. I’m not asking you to change who you are. I’m asking you to change what you are. I’m not asking you not to take steps to make yourself feel sexy; that’s every young woman’s right.
Also every young woman’s right: realization.