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Dating in college is not an uncommon thing. As a matter of fact, it is one of the most common running topics at any college, and let’s be real, was so even in high school. Everyone at some point of time wishes to be with someone, see someone or even ships two other individuals with each other. And after a bit of talking and hanging out, Cupid strikes and people fall for one another. And then, the rest of the world simply ceases to exist. Along with which, ceases to exist, the group of friends, the focus and the drive of ambition that used to once exist. I am not saying that this happens with EVERY SINGLE couple that dates in college, but it is the most common case. Maybe the reason for that could be the fact that when people just become ignorant to what they are losing out on, or maybe just that they themselves decide to give priority to the one that they are seeing, who knows?
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Often times, I see couples who basically started dating a week from meeting each other and often it turns out great, but there are instances when the couple who donāt even know each other well enough start dating and in all the time that they spend together as a couple, getting to know each other, they lose out on what couldāve been some great time invested in some great deed. Unfortunately, if or when they are no longer a couple, they have no one to go to because while they were dating, the only people that they saw or spent any time with were each other, parents or roommates, two of which are evident given the close approximation of living.
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Another core factor that defines the success and failure of relationships is trust. Easier said than done, trust is not only an essential component for any relationship, it is also one of the uncommon ones. Ā Iāll be honest; some couples just donāt wish to let go of one another even for a small fraction of time. Protectiveness turns into possessiveness and downhill goes the rollercoaster that was moving up nice, slow and steady.
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I, along with about another 8 Million people, live in New York City, where there are literally a million things one can do, even alone. One of my best friends who is in a relationship has the trust that she has gained from her partner and is able to make the most out of New York City by going out, around and about. But some of my other friends, and some friends of these friends donāt even realize that they are simply losing out on what could be one of the best days of their lives when they look back at it in the near and distant future.
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We go to a college to learn, live there to learn and to make friends, and friends has that āsā in it to signify the plural form of it. Loving and caring for someone is not a crime. Giving them your 100% time dedication isnāt a crime either, but not loving yourself and listening to your own heart is the biggest mistake anyone can make. If you donāt love yourself then how can you expect someone else to actually love you forever? Ā So love your partner, love them with all your heart, but love yourself with your soul, first experiences happen only once, so go out and make the most of it!