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Life On The Other Side: Dealing with the Loss of Your Rush Crush to Your Rival Sorority

Her Campus Placeholder Avatar Hayden Ann Sorensen
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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Stetson chapter.

 

Recruitment is something all Greeks look forward to and dread at the same time. Sleepless nights, forgetting to eat, changing plans, raging hormones, and all types of other stress that go into the whole process. On the bright side, everyone is extremely excited to go out, meet new PNMs, and especially scope out their potential little.

So, you found her and she is perfect. She is beautiful, confident, intelligent, classy, and on top of that, she knows how to go out and have an amazing time. As soon as she walks into a room, all eyes glue to her. She carries herself effortlessly and elegantly and can strike up an intriguing conversation with anybody.

On top of that, everyone loves her. All of your sisters love her and so do all of your frat friends. The boys know how much you love her, and after getting to know her a little bit, they know that she has to be in your sorority, and she definitely has to be YOUR little.

After getting reassurance from everyone, even people that aren’t Greek, you know. You know you need her in your sorority because everyone knows her, loves her, and you know that she will be able to do things for your chapter no one ever dreamed possible, even though you may be a little biased at this point.

Recruitment is here! Starving and exhausted you are ready, ready to bring her in every single day and show her what your sorority is all about. As you see her through recruitment, you see her fitting into your sisterhood more and more. Now that you are extremely confident she is going to join your sorority, it is time to Pref. her. You bring her into the house and show her how beautiful your sorority’s values are, you make her feel like she is at home, and you tell her how much you and your sisters love her, want her, and need her. When you walk her to the door, she gives you a big hug with tears running down both of your faces. You got her!

Bid Day! The moment of truth! You are surrounded by your sisters and all of Greek life awaiting to see everyone’s new members. The doors slam open and you cannot help but wait with your stomach in knots. You see her! You think to yourself, “OMG OMG OMG I cannot wait to welcome her home!” But wait… Where is she going? Wait, no that is the wrong sorority! We are over here! Oh my gosh… you have just been played, and you lost your rush crush.

What do you do now? Yes, of course you can cry because we all know we would do the same, but you cannot do it in front of her! Pull yourself together, woman! Now, go over there give her a huge hug and tell her that you are so happy that she found her home and that you still love her. If she really did mean as much to you as you thought, you will get over it in the next hour after meeting YOUR new girls. You’ll go out with them, and by the time big/little reveal happens, you will find someone ten times better than your rush crush and you’ll look back on it and feel dumb for being so upset. Who knows, maybe she was better off there, maybe she would have driven your sisters crazy. You don’t know, and at this point you don’t care. Just take another shot. Enjoy Bid Night! You have your sisters and your amazing new members, plus you know there are a ton of cute boys at the party. Have fun, and get over your long lost rush crush. She obviously wasn’t worth it.

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I am currently a junior at Stetson University who is ready get things going! Growing up in D.C., I developed a keen sense for fashion, a thick skin, and a yearning for success. It was only recently that I took the leap of faith and permanently moved down to Florida, not far from where I attend school, so I could pursue my love for fashion, warm weather, and a fast-paced life. I can remember my first day at Stetson University like it was yesterday with all the chaos of meeting new friends mixed with the anxiety of new classes and nervousness of being alone for the first time, but most of all my biggest concern was the stress of figuring out how I could possibly pop out of my bubble and become what I wanted to be: the confident, successful, and driven college student who would not follow but create the trend! After two years of hard work, through becoming a part of the Greek life scene, joining many different organizations and learning from prior upperclassmen who have become successful, I have created communication and leadership skills that I am forever grateful for. With a recently new found passion for the journalistic side of life, I cannot wait to be apart of something bigger than I have ever been before so I can continue learning and gaining memorable experiences that will help me in my goal to make my lifelong dreams and aspirations come to life!
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 I am currently a junior at Stetson University who is ready get things going! Growing up in D.C., I developed a keen sense for fashion, a thick skin, and a yearning for success. It was only recently that I took the leap of faith and permanently moved down to Florida, not far from where I attend school, so I could pursue my love for fashion, warm weather, and a fast-paced life. I can remember my first day at Stetson University like it was yesterday with all the chaos of meeting new friends mixed with the anxiety of new classes and nervousness of being alone for the first time, but most of all my biggest concern was the stress of figuring out how I could possibly pop out of my bubble and become what I wanted to be: the confident, successful, and driven college student who would not follow but create the trend! After two years of hard work, through becoming a part of the Greek life scene, joining many different organizations and learning from prior upperclassmen who have become successful, I have created communication and leadership skills that I am forever grateful for. With a recently new found passion for the journalistic side of life, I cannot wait to be apart of something bigger than I have ever been before so I can continue learning and gaining memorable experiences that will help me in my goal to make my lifelong dreams and aspirations come to life!