“We Live In Time” is one of the most sincere and gut-wrenching films released in a while. Florence Pugh and Andrew Garfield make a stunning pairing, leading the film in a way that makes the audience feel present in each moment. It feels like you’re watching a scene unfold in real time. Once the movie was over, I felt empty inside, but not in a negative way. Rather, all I could do was sit and reflect on life, love, and time.
There are many expectations set in life around time. For example, most girls say they want to be married by their mid-twenties to have kids in their late 20s or early 30s. Although it is important to have an idea of what you want your life to look like, it is equally as important to remember that it is okay for plans to change. People often become so consumed by marriage because it is the end goal for most relationships; however, in doing this, they completely ignore the journey of building up a meaningful connection with their partner.Â
When people think of intimacy they often think of the sexual definition, which was prevalent in this movie, of course. However, they also made the emotional connection between the two characters a center-focus that made their interactions feel so raw. When people start a romantic relationship by building an emotional connection to their partner rather than a physical one, it helps create a better understanding for one another. Being vulnerable is a difficult thing to do, and building up trust in both respects is crucial to having a long-lasting relationship.Â
The truth is it is society’s fault that people have these preconceived notions of when they should be married, when to have kids, etc. Being in college makes you realize how never-ending that pressure is. Most people start college when they are eighteen or nineteen, and have no idea who they are, and what they want to do with their life. And yet some people have never been in a relationship by the time they start college and think that is a negative thing, but those people should remember that your relationship status does not define you. You will find what is right for you when the time is right.
 “We Live In Time” is a reminder for everyone that we need to slow down and appreciate the present rather than worrying about the future and the past.Â
One of the pivotal scenes in the movie is when Garfield’s character says early on in the relationship between him and Pugh’s character that he feels he is already “falling in love” with her. Not only this, but he establishes that he wants to have kids. She is bewildered as to why he would say this so early on, but Garfield’s character points out that at their age relationships tend to move faster. She states that she is not looking to have a relationship that serious yet and does not want kids, which lays out their different values.Â
Another significant moment towards the beginning of the film is when Pugh’s character says she is not going to try the treatment again for her cancer, because there is no guarantee it will work. Her character declares she “would rather have six amazing months than twelve really shitty ones.” As hard of a choice as it is, it sets into perspective how little time we have on this planet in the grand scheme of things. We spend the majority of that time worrying about things that when reflecting on are meaningless stressors when instead we should be trying to make the most out of every moment we are given. We have responsibilities we have to fulfill, but it feels like nobody ever has free time anymore. We should focus on building up our interpersonal connections with others in a society that aims to isolate us with technology. Spend the moments you have wisely, because when you reflect on your life, you should feel proud of what you did with it. What you do matters, and you have a bit of a say as to the influence you can leave on others. How they choose to remember you is a separate thing, but this movie serves as an important reminder that we are all on this life journey together. The least we can do is try to enjoy it, even when times get rough. Â