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How to: Get Over That Someone You Can’t Get Over

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Her Campus Placeholder Avatar Erica Markle
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Suffolk chapter.

 

Lets face it, being young adults we suck at communicating and dealing with relationships. Especially when it comes to getting over them. Whether it’s an ex-boyfriend, or even just a fling, getting over that certain person is just plain hard. When you’re constantly thinking of them, checking your phone, Facebook, Twitter, it can get quite exhausting. These three tips can help you get your mind straight and be able to move on.

1. Cut off Contact

Admit it, we always read over old texts and Facebook messages and sift through old pictures, but this isn’t going to help you get over someone. It takes will power, but you have to do it – delete the texts, Facebook messages, e-mails, or whatever else you might refer back to that makes you think of that someone. Even knowing that the messages are gone and you cant look back at them will get your mind away from him.

And if you’re in a situation where you are still talking, try to cut it down and slowly move away from contact. Some of you might be in the, “were friends now” situation. Although it may seem okay for a while, it usually doesn’t work when there were previous emotions involved. So get the guts, and delete the messages, cut off contact, and go from looking at his Facebook three times a day to three times a week. Eventually you will notice yourself mentally moving away from him.

2. Keep Busy

Sitting around watching The Notebook and eating Ben and Jerry’s from the container isn’t going to help you get your mind off someone. Its important to stay involved and keep busy. Go out with your friends, be social, and be open to meeting new people. Go see a movie with friends, or get involved with a school club. Make it a goal to make more time for your friends. Eventually, you will catch yourself having a great time with other people, and not thinking of him.

3. Make Yourself a Priority

When we like someone, we tend to loose ourselves a little. So, make some time for yourself. Get back to the gym, and try to loose those five pounds you wanted to. Have a spa day with friends, and get massages and manicures. Go buy that cute jacket you’ve been staring at for weeks on Newbury Street. Find something to change about yourself. Go get those Ombre highlights you’ve been eyeing on all the celebrities. Make yourself your Number 1.

With all the time you spend thinking of your last guy, you don’t open yourself up to meeting new, great guys that could be right in front of you. 

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Name: Danielle Acker Year: Sophomore Major: Communications
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Originally from Connecticut, Erica attends Suffolk University in Boston, Massachusetts. She is a senior, majoring in public relations, and minoring in marketing. She founded Suffolk's chapter of Her Campus along with co-Campus Correspondent, Mackenzie Newcomb. has interned at a few start-up companies including Quincy Apparel and Good to Go Organics. She was also a public relations intern at Regan Communications Group, and is currently the advertising/marketing intern at The Improper Bostonian Magazine. Erica also works on Newbury Street at Jack Wills University Outfitters, a British clothing company that is expanding across America. She is very interested in the world of fashion, and hopes to make it big doing marketing/PR for a fashion magazine or as a publicist in New York City or LA upon graduation. In her free time, she enjoys shopping, hanging out with friends, going to the beach, reading, writing, and dancing.