Ahh college. It’s that time of year again. Days get shorter, schoolwork is in full force, and yet our social lives keep knocking at our doors, begging for us to attend another night out.
Is going out the social norm in college? And is the word “no” even allowed?
In our fast-paced world, the pressure to be constantly social and on the move is almost inescapable. Whether it’s a party, dinner, or social/academic obligations, the expectation to show up can be hard to overcome. However, it’s okay to say “no.”
Saying no to going out is a powerful form of self-care and allows you to prioritize your well-being- both physically and mentally. By opting for a relaxing night in, you are opening the doors to allow your body to breathe.
Plus, staying in can be just as fun as going out.
As a junior in college, I have had my fair share of nights out, often attending every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday social gathering. Now, I find myself craving a relaxing night on the weekends full of my favorite stay home activities. From indulging in an episode of Gilmore Girls to journaling to meditation, the options of a “night in” are endless. And the best thing? There is no pressure to show up and show out in the process of staying in.
Throughout my time in college, I often found myself waking up after a night out feeling groggy and gross. From the things that I ate and drank, to how much money I spent and the way I acted, I never woke up satisfied with my decisions from the night before.
Over time, this repetitive outcome became draining and undesirable. Facing the facts, I came to terms that I didn’t need or even want to go out every weekend. Through trial and error, I learned that it was okay to say no. However, I faced many obstacles, my biggest being peer pressure. Personally, seeing my friends getting ready to go out was the hardest part. I found myself with a terrible case of FOMO and fell right back into the rhythm of going out, feeling gross, and once again forgetting how to say no.
It is through fully indulging in a self-care routine that I have found my ability to say no to an unwanted night out so much easier. I now look forward to baking and curling up in bed to watch a movie, then running through the streets of Philadelphia looking for the best party of the night.
Although saying no to a night out might not be typical in college, it is needed, and it can be lots of fun! Remember that it’s always important to put your well-being first and take care of your needs. Listen to your mind, body and soul- and always have fun!