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How to Maintain a Healthy Long Distance Relationship

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Reilly Moriarty
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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Texas chapter.
  1. Have a designated time to talk everyday. Having a time that both of you are able to talk, whether it be for 15 minutes or an hour makes the time you spend apart go by faster. My favorite time to talk to my boyfriend is at night before bed because we are both able to talk about our days with each other. It makes me feel like more involved in his life when I get to hear about his day. 
  2. Always have a next visit planned. Being able to count down the days spent apart can help you to both stay motivated in your relationship. Having visits to look forward to builds excitement about your relationship.
  3. Utilize technology. FaceTime will be your most used app. Another app that I love is Official. Official is an app for couples that features relationship tips, daily questions, and different ways to communicate with your partner. I love this app because it makes me feel closer to my boyfriend even though we are so far apart.
  4. Plan dates, even if they have to be virtual. When you do get to see each other in real life, make the most out of your time together. Take turns planning dates and fun memorable moments that you can look back on when you are away from each other. Virtual dates can also be a great way to keep the spark when you are apart. Virtual movie dates or having your favorite food together on FaceTime are my favorite long distance date ideas. 
  5. Plan little or even big surprises! Send them flowers or their favorite candy to let them know you are thinking about them. Go visit them and surprise them! This is one of the most fun parts about being long distance. I love seeing when long distance couples surprise each other. Small or big gestures can be so important to maintaining a happy relationship.
  6. Have an end goal. Whether it be in 3 months or 3 years, talk about when you will no longer be long distance. Having a goal to work towards and seeing a future with your partner will help your relationship stand in the hardest of times. 

Remember that all relationships are different and what works for me may not work for you and your partner! Long distance relationships are hard work, but they can be so fulfilling. You got this!

My name is Reilly Moriarty, and I am from San Francisco, California. I am a freshman majoring in Political Communications, and I have now been an active member of Her Campus for two semesters! I love reading, hiking, and spending time with my friends and family. I am thrilled to be able to be a contributing member of Her Campus!