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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Texas chapter.
In a world filled with constant social engagements and the pressure to always have company, the joy of spending time alone is often seen as too daunting. Over time, solo dates have become a cherished practice for me. Whether it’s a quiet evening at my favorite restaurant, window shopping or trying on millions of dresses I’ll never actually buy, watching a movie that just came out, running errands, or even attending Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour alone, these experiences have deepened my self-love, confidence, and inner peace.
Here’s how you can maximize your solo dates to make them as fulfilling and enjoyable as possible:
1. firstly, Prioritize Mental Health
- Recognize your anxiety: Understand that anxiety about being judged is common and nothing to be ashamed of. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and validate your emotional state rather than ignore it.
- Shift your mindset: Your worth isn’t defined by others’ perceptions. It’s easier said than internalized, but it’s true. People are often too busy with their own lives to focus on yours.
- Embrace your individuality: Solo activities are a form of self-care and self-expression. By taking time for yourself, you’re prioritizing the process of better understanding yourself.
- Challenge negative thoughts: Whenever the anxiety gets worse, ask yourself if these thoughts are based on facts or assumptions. Replace them with affirmations that reinforce your right to enjoy your own company.
- Practice self-compassion: It is so important to be kind to yourself. It’s okay to enjoy activities alone and to find joy in solitude. Celebrate your independence and all the self-love it represents.
2. Choose Daytime Outings in Busy Areas
- Why: In my experience, I’ve found daytime outings to be much safer while offering the comfort of having more people around. This way, you can easily blend in and ease your anxiety of standing out.
- How: Plan your solo dates for the day and pick popular areas where you can easily find help if needed. Avoid isolated places and aim for bustling areas where you can blend in but still feel secure.
3. Plan Your Itinerary in Advance
- Why: Planning ahead ensures you know exactly where you’re going and what you’re doing, minimizing the risk of getting lost or encountering unexpected issues. It also instills a sense of confidence and security within yourself, since you can fall back on a pre-made plan.
- How: Outline your day’s activities, including the route, timings, and alternatives. Check the weather, operating hours, and any other relevant details to keep your day smooth and stress-free.
4. Carry Essentials for Comfort and Safety
- Why: Being prepared with essentials enhances your comfort and safety.
- How: Always have a portable charger, some cash, and ensure someone knows your location. These items will save you from unexpected issues, just in case.
5. Create Your Own Experience
- Why: Solo dates are about creating happiness for yourself, regardless of external circumstances.
- How: If you’re in a small city or at home, create joy by setting up a picnic in your garden, baking all day, or having a creative session. Focus on activities you enjoy and make them special by adding personal touches.
6. Embrace Mindfulness During Solo Dining
- Why: Dining alone is an opportunity for mindfulness and self-reflection.
- How: Choose a restaurant you love, bring a book or journal, and savor each bite. Embrace the experience of being alone without distractions, allowing yourself to fully enjoy your meal and the ambiance. Or, you can simply people-watch, which is incredibly valid because same.
7. Enjoy the Freedom of Solo Movie trips
- Why: Solo movie nights offer an intimate and distraction-free cinematic experience.
- How: Pick a movie you’re excited about, choose the showtime, and enjoy the freedom that comes with treating yourself to said movie.
8. Experience Concerts as a Solo Adventure
- Why: Attending a concert alone lets you connect deeply with the music and artist.
- How: Choose a concert you’re passionate about and immerse yourself in the experience. I met a lot of people at the Eras Tour, and made so many new friends.
9. Celebrate Your Solo Time with Creative Activities
- Why: Engaging in creative activities enriches your solo time and boosts your mood.
- How: Dedicate time to painting, creating a vision board, or any other creative pursuits. Turn these activities into events by setting up a special space, playing music, and focusing on making the experience enjoyable.
10. Start a Memory Box for Your Solo Dates
- Why: As a person who loves documenting experiences and hoarding objects from the past, I would highly recommend a memory box that keeps track of your adventures and encourages you to explore more.
- How: Collect tickets, receipts, and small souvenirs from your solo dates and store them in a box. This collection will serve as a tangible reminder of your experiences and personal growth.
11. Mix Up Your Solo Date Categories
- Why: Variety keeps solo dating exciting and prevents it from becoming a routine.
- How: Explore different types of solo dates, such as budget-friendly museum visits, indulgent spa days, or at-home experiences like baking or reading marathons. This whole experience is completely up to on how you choose to approach it, so do whatever makes you happy!
Solo dates are a powerful way to build self-love and confidence. By following these steps, you’ll learn to cherish your own company, explore new experiences, and find joy in solitude. Remember, the goal is to become the architect of your own happiness, celebrating the love story you have with yourself.