He Said, She Said: Episode 4

Say hola to Snowdin and Summer Lovin, our spicy chico and chica providing you with the best advice North of the border!

Snowdin:  Last week I waxed poetic on the reality of love at first sight. This weekend I actually met two couples that fell in love at first sight, so I thought it might be fun to share their stories. Story one takes us back to the relieved and joyful atmosphere of a post-war United States when a young man was just returning from his Air Force tour in Europe. Walking into a local department store, he was knocked breathless by a beautiful girl playing piano in the store’s music section. He asked her out and she told him to call him on Monday and see what she said. Two weeks later, having not heard from him at all, she was astonished when a slightly jaundiced and tired-looking young man sauntered into her store. He apologized for not calling due to a sudden bout of malaria, but asked her to lunch that day. She quickly lied that she had a lunch date with her friend, but that he could join them. She quickly called her friend who rushed down to meet them so she could check him out. A few months later they were married and over 60 years later they were still happily married with children and grandchildren.
 
Story Two is set in current times for all of those naysayers who say love at first sight doesn’t apply in our modern times. An engineering internship with some of the brightest young people in the country. So many people to choose from and yet, at a company organized outing, a young man catches a young woman’s eye. He isn’t necessarily the hottest guy around, but he’s attractive, nor does she know anything about him, yet there’s just something about him. She can’t quite put her finger on it, but she knows he’s special. She chases him around, and eventually he agrees to go on a date with her. Now, after time together and time apart at different schools, they’re still together and engaged to be married this summer.
 
Love at first sight. Debated, denied, decried. These stories are true. You be the judge.

Can a hook up become something more?

Summer Lovin:  Hmmmm, this is a sticky situation and I hate to say definitively yes or no. It depends on if this is a random hookup or a hookup with someone you know. Random hookups I’m going to have to say no, chances are you will barely remember the person, it’s better you just forget them. If this is a hook up with someone you know you can get a better gage of the situation.  Some people you just have to get it out of the way, others you might be harboring some feelings (I don’t think hooking up with them would be the best first step to dealing with those feelings though).
But as a whole I feel as though there is an underlying understanding with hookups that they won’t get much further than a certain point.

Snowdin:  Sure, but the real question is should it? I know a few people who have entered into LTR’s (long term relationships) after said hook up, with some of those LTR’s being successful and others, well, being disappointing and painful for those involved. If you’re super drunk and rocking the DFMO (dance floor make out) chances are you may not remember your partner’s name in the morning, or be able to decipher the new jumble of letters in your contact list. On the other hand, you may and it definitely wouldn’t hurt to see if that night’s magic can happen again. Most likely there’s nothing to lose!

How do you deal with passive aggressive housemates?

Summer Lovin: Confront them. I know that people are all about trying to be nice and diplomatic about things but it gets to a point were that just doesn’t cut it. I used to take this route and things got worse and I ended up miserable. Bite the bullet and talk to them about it because it’s the only way you’ll truly feel that you’ve at least made an attempt to deal with the issue. If they continue to act a fool you’ll know that they have issues!

Snowdin: Fortunately for me I’ve never been on the receiving end of a passive aggressive attack. I have seen some great ones in my day, however. These include, but are not limited to, putting unwashed dishes in front of the dirtier’s room, moving said dishes onto his bed when they were still not cleaned, duct taping q-tips with a note saying the owner’s name, and playing the sound of humpback whales at maximum volume when a noisy neighbor is having fittingly noisy sex. So if you’re the one hearing the whale song when getting your nays on, what should you do? It may be difficult, but confront the passive aggressive housemate and ask them what is bothering them. Work together to find a solution, and just let them know that you weren’t doing anything to annoy them specifically and that they can always talk to you about an issue they are having. Or you could always get them back by switching around all the keys on their keyboard!

Boxers or Briefs?

Summer Lovin:  I’m a fan of the boxer brief… have you seen those Armani ads, I mean come on.  Just the right amount of hold and breathing room and it looks awesome! I’m letting my thoughts run wild right now. But a quick disclaimer you must be wearing the right size, nothing is worse then underwear that doesn’t fit… yuck! Boxers can look sloppy and briefs are too small, I say go with the combo.

Snowdin: For years, nay, millennia, men have debated whether to enjoy support at the expense of fashion or to look good while sacrificing the comforting support of briefs. Then, one glorious day, around the time when yours truly first brightened the world with his presence, boxer briefs were born. Someone must have known that someday young Snowdin would need to look fashionable while supporting and showcasing his enviable lower physique. The boxer brief is a great combination of form and function that meets the needs of every man. That said, there are somedays when you need to show a little more thigh and a little less fabric and the brief days just the trick.