He Said, She Said: Episode 5

Meet Summer Lovin, our sometimes sweet female writer, and Snowdin, our sometimes salty male voice.  Together, they make the perfect bite-sized snack.

Do you have frenemies?
 
Summer Lovin: No. I don’t believe in the notion of frenemies.  I’m either friends or not with someone, no enemies though (that sounds too sinister to me and nothing is that serious). I wouldn’t consider someone a friend if they were trying to hurt me, but that may be me. Squash the drama and just be cordial to those you don’t particularly like and keep it moving.
 
Snowdin: No. I tend to either form good relationships or bad relationships people. My general way of determining whether or not I like people is by whether or not I feel like they have a good heart. Most people do, so this makes it hard to hate anyone.
 
You and an ex split up on bad terms.  Is it worth it to try and smooth things over, or should you just leave it alone?
 
Summer Lovin: I’ve never encountered this dilemma so I’ll be answering this in the hypothetical sense.  Being that I tend to hold a grudge and I can be very stubborn when it comes to being hurt by anyone, I would have to say that I’d leave this one alone. If it ended badly then you two probably wouldn’t want to talk to each other so why force it and drudge up old stuff?  Do you really want to continue being friends?
 
Snowdin: I think it depends a lot on the type of relationship you had while you were together and even before together. In my experience there tend to be relationships that there are worth maintaining and those that aren’t. It can be hard to make those decisions, but after a while you will figure out if it’s worth it or not. One of my personal philosophies is not to burn bridges, so if I can maintain a friendship or at least an amiable acknowledgement of each other’s existence I do my best to make it happen.
 
Have you ever dealt with a professor who seems to have it in for you? How do you deal with it?
 
Summer Lovin: Luckily, I have not encountered this situation. If you try and get to know your professors I think that most of them will like you and try to help you.  Most professors don’t know their students that well, unless the class is extremely small, so for a professor to just starting targeting one student seems a bit crazy. I think that you just have to show that you are interested in the class and want to do well, and then they’ll be more inclined to like you.  That’s always worked for me.
 
Snowdin: Just this semester I had a professor tell me I was being obnoxious, that she couldn’t believe that I was pressuring her, and that if necessary I could talk to the dean before coming to the next class. What had I done? I’d asked to have some harder assignments because I already had experience with the program we were using and was hoping to work on some projects during the introductory classes. I left class the first day not sure I’d return, but I did and was always polite and friendly with teacher. Weeks later we get along swimmingly.

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