From a Guy’s Perspective: Things that can make a girl AWESOME that she doesn’t know about
Originally I was going to go ahead and write about “How to get a guy in 10 days”, talking about how girls might meet guys and ideas for going out and stuff like that, but this is almost the same thing. This is going to be a list that will shock some girls out there, but I have never encountered a guy who says having any of these qualities would hurt.
1. A great (or at least similar) taste in movies. Guys tend to tolerate movies that girls want to watch, usually in the hopes that it will lead to something more. The best example of this is The Notebook. There is no man in the history of ever has genuinely enjoyed The Notebook, nor has one watched it voluntarily on his own or among a group of other men (unless he had sex with them later). Yes, there are some exceptions. Some guys will like some movies that are designed for girls (for me 10 Things I Hate About You and Love Actually), but more often then not a guy will go into a romantic comedy or whatever kind of movie with a negative attitude, so a girl with a great taste in movies? AMAZING.
I met a girl recently whom I was certain I would marry after going into her room and seeing two posters on her wall: Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark, and Back to the Future. Even if I didn’t know this girl, even if I didn’t like like her right away, I would at least want to hang out with someone who fell off the awesome tree and landed in the floor below me and I hope isn’t awkwardly reading this article.
I’m not saying to lie about movies you like (well, maybe), but maybe think about listing your top five differently, starting with the ones you like that they might like.
Example of a bad top-5 list:
- The Notebook
- The English Patient
- Breakfast at Tiffany’s
- Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
- Hairspray
Example of a good top-5 list:
- Billy Madison
- Fight Club
- Mean Girls
- Back to the Future
- (500) Days of Summer
The good thing about this list is that it is not clearly just a guys list of favorite movies, but at the same time includes more then enough super awesome ones to make it glorious for a guy to hear.
2. The ability to talk/hold a conversation: So dumb bimbos aren’t really fun and one reason is because they never talk about anything interesting. They like to talk about themselves or that one time they got drunk or OH MY GOD I love those shoes or IT’S SO COLD (in my mini-skirt) and I DON’T KNOW WHY. Stuff like that that they think a guy cares about hearing. They don’t.
We don’t.
Seriously.
No.
The best thing to talk about is not defined. It’s not the same for everybody and the best thing to do would be to talk about something that is interesting to you, but you also think would be interesting to the guy. Being able to bring something interesting to the conversation, whether it be past life experiences or your own opinions is a great thing to have happen.
It’s pretty tough to tell whether or not someone is smart right off the bat, which is where conversations come into play. If someone can barely maintain a conversation with you, then its pretty likely you’re going to assume they aren’t smart, and few (good) guys actually want to date (not just beast out a one-night stand) a girl who is dumb. Date her and have any expectations of staying with her.
3. Playfulness: A girl has to be fun. Yes, girls are always fun when you make out with them and whatever, but girls have to be fun from doing things that are not just sexual, otherwise all that a guy is going to want to do with the girl is something sexual.
For some odd reason it is amazing to just be able to say to a girl, “Do you wanna fight?!” and for her to respond, “Hell yes! Right now!”
No, I’m not encouraging men and women to get into fist fights (unless it’s an awesome situation that could be cool to watch), but I am saying its nice to be able to be sarcastic and playful and with someone who knows when you’re joking around.
This all also has to do with the sense of humor of a girl. Not much disappoints a guy more then a girl who doesn’t laugh at any jokes that he says. And even if it doesn’t disappoint a guy, it will make a guy think that a girl doesn’t like him if she doesn’t laugh at his joke.