This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at U Mich chapter.
Most of the time, sharing the spotlight is necessary in order to maintain the most basic relationships and not make people resent or slap you. However, there are times when that is entirely not the case. It could be one night. It could be one week. Hell, it could be all summer long.
Here are the ingredients needed for an absolutely foolproof peak:
- Confidence. This is the number one most important ingredient not only for your peak, but for a successful LIFE. Have a strong presence. Walk into the place like you own it: because you do. You’re the BADDEST one here and if you don’t believe it, who will? Don’t be annoying about it, just make it clear that you are actually beyond content with yourself and that no one can interfere with your glowing aura.
- Self-love. Can’t achieve step one (confidence) without a little self-love. Remind yourself who you are, where you’re from, and why you should be proud as hell of your amazing mind and body. That right there should get you AMPED for your peak, like seriously remind yourself of how dope you are because you literally are. No. Shame. Maybe think of some baller thing you did once. Like hey, maybe you won the talent show in sixth grade, that was sick. Revel in that. If that didn’t happen to you, maybe just remind yourself that you’re a living human being on this earth and commend yourself on the fact that you can read. That’s huge. Point is anything that is right in your life should make you so happy and really pulse through your veins.
- Worrying about you, yourself, and…. Yeah just you. Ask yourself why you damn came here. You came here to dance, you came here to crush it. Don’t worry about your friend who is complaining about how her hair looks. Don’t worry about that girl giving you dirty looks because she’s jealous of the fact that you’re an absolute legend. Don’t worry about whoever-the-hell-is-over-there-whispering-in-your-ear. Bob and weave, baby.
- Leave the drama at home. Better yet, just leave your phone at home. That boy you like? Blocked. NAHH I’m kidding, but if he’s causing you turmoil you gotta cut it for the night because peaking is impossible when there are forces trying to hold you back.
- Clear your mind. In order to fully experience the effects of peaking, you need to have absolutely no expectations for the night. Expectations are a recipe for a pretty rude #awakening because you set yourself up for people to let you down. When you go out to have yourself a night, you’re the only one who can let yourself down by not being the best person you can be. Unless you realize that your drunchies place is closed, in which case I’m truly sorry for your loss.
You literally cannot give a single f***. If you care about what people think then you’re wrong and you will NOT peak. Peaking is about control– if you rely on others to influence your peak, you’re missing the point. YOU. ARE. THE. POINT.
Pro tip: The best way to peak is to never peak. Just be in a permanent state of ascension, always.
Image courtesy of Adam Howard Weiss