Many books, films and articles center on decoding the things women say. The infamous YouTube videos “Sh*t that Girls Say” conjured up the question once again. I suppose men stay awake at night trying to figure out what women actually think, and may opt to just believe that women are from Jupiter. Lately, I have been struck by the conversations I have been having with my female friends over their love lives and I have come to the conclusion that women do not understand men and women never actually, explicitly say what they want, need and feel to men. Here are four common phrases decoded from my perspective to help you guys out:
Your question: What’s wrong? Her response: Nothing or Forget it
When a woman uses the word “nothing” or says “forget it”, after you ask her what’s wrong, or if everything is okay, it really means please ask me that again, which will sometimes be followed by another “nothing” in response. She would then want you to ask one more time before she feels like opening up about whatever is bothering her at that particular moment. When she says nothing the second time, it is a test, she wants to know if you will care to ask again, which is equivalent in the female mind to how badly you will fight for her. Thus, the bottom-line is ask again, and then once more just to be sure, from there follow up with, I will ask you again in a couple hours, but actually do it or she will judge you for your lack of sincerity.
Your question: What do you want me to do? Her response: It’s up to you
Think of women as ninjas who leave secret, painful, sticky traps for men to walk into. The response “it’s up to you,” is one of those traps. Let’s clear this up, it’s really never up to you, although a woman may sometimes try to accommodate your needs along with hers, it’s usually hers that rein supreme, unless it’s your birthday, or she’s super considerate. Either way, the phrase “it’s up to you” means she is deciphering if you are going to make the right decision, and if you do not, there could be consequences. Since women usually have a difficult time telling you what they want and also have the tendency to change their minds extremely erratically, you may never make the right decision. So instead of making the wrong decision, simply make the decision with her, tell her that her thoughts matter to you and that you would rather make the decision in harmony with her.
You’re right!
Women have victimized men with this statement. While on the surface it almost comes across like you have finally done something correctly, sadly you are quite mistaken. Women know that men usually enjoy feeling like they are always right or like they are in control, so they use it against them. In this case if you guys are having a conversation or an argument, when she says, “You’re right” she has mentally left the conversation, would gladly like to end it and for you to stop talking. However, when you hear “You’re right” unless she genuinely means it, you will most likely walk away with a feeling of accomplishment, but it is phony, she will bring up the conversation again at a later date, be ready!
Do you think she is attractive?
Women sometimes ask you whether or not you think a certain woman is attractive. This could be a celebrity, one of your friends, or maybe an ex. Whoever the woman may be, she is most likely asking you because she is mentally comparing herself to that woman, or wants to gage your tastes in women. It is really hard to get out of this question smoothly. If your female friend holds up a picture of Meagan Good, and asks whether or not you find her attractive, it’s better not to lie. You should say yes she’s pretty but you either do not know her, and you do not have feelings for her, and then compliment your woman instead.
The purpose of this article is not to make you be dishonest with the women in your life. It is to help you understand what goes on in our minds. I have also noticed from speaking with my male friends that men always think they know what a woman wants, but they never get it right and could get it right if they just asked. If you ask, you will find. For example, if you forget your anniversary, ask her how you can make it up to her, trying to buy her a gift, ask her to tell you the things that she likes. Women are complicated creatures but hopefully these tips will make us seem a little less perplexing.
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